Post # 1
me and my boyfriend live together and have been talking about getting married for a while and recently he asked me what kind of ring I’d like and we went to try on a few.
Naturally I’m over the moon but now that we started to actually talk wedding we can’t decide on where to have it!
He is american and I’m half Irish and Italian, but UK raised and we live in Rome (where we met). Our guests would be coming from the UK, the US and Italy plus a few other ppl from around the world.
For Rome the pros are: I could organise everything, the weather tends to be nicer, and it is where we met and live (although we want to move to the US after the wedding) and amazing food!
The cons are: dealing with italian bureocracy (absolute hell!) also I want an anglican wedding and there is only one anglican church here so I’m pretty sure it may be more difficult to book a date.
For the UK the pros are: easier for US guests to travel to (plus most ofmy family and friends live there) easier for the paper work, easier to find a church.
cons: unpredictable weather and much more expensive!
For the US the pros are that it would be easier for me to obtain a Fiancee visa that once we’re married converts into a marriage visa.
cons: it would be so difficult for me to plan.
I really can’t get my head around it any advice?
Post # 3
Oh I wrestled with this… differently but kinda similar.
My Darling Husband is English and I’m American and we met in Cancun, Mexico.
We decided to have the wedding in one of our hometowns so at least one side of the family wouldn’t have to travel far and since I have the bigger family and would be able to be local to the venue/planning things, we got married in the US.
EEK, with your situation and the wedding you want, I’d say get married in the UK. That way you have lots of your friends and family around to help and the Anglican wedding you want is totally possible.
You don’t really need stellar weather to have a church wedding and although its more expensive, there are plenty of ways to save money and I think having the family and friends present is priceless.
Post # 4
Contact the church in Italy to ask about weddings. I know you probably don’t yet have a date in mind, but you could tell them a few you were thinking about, and see what they say. That will give you an idea of how hard it will be to book the Anglican church. BTW the new Archbishop of Cantebury used to be an oil executive! How do you feel abou that?
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I would say UK, because plane tickets are cheaper to there… plus it seems like you’d be able to have more of the wedding you’d want there. 🙂
ETA: Fi and I looked up tickets to lots of places in Europe from where we live in USA, and London seemed to be the cheapest airport.
Post # 6
@walnutgirl: im thinking maybe Italy, depending on church availability. if youre getting married in 2014 (if thats the real date) then i would say you have enough time to make the booking. It should be less expensive and im sure the weather would be lovely
A big factor is money though. For example, Im english and my fi is Mexican. My family are in a better position to travel to mexico than his family are to travel to London, so we decided to marry in mexico. Can your family and his family both afford to travel?
Its so much easier to organise a wedding where you are than from a distance. And even if paperwork is a bitch its doable – i have a mountain of paperwork that im ploughing through (catholic to marry non catholic, foreigner to marry mexican etc) but its slowly getting done
Post # 7
I am italian, live in the US (my husband is American) and we had our wedding in Italy. It was really hard to organize everything from the US, so I had to compromise on a lot of things. Things ended up costing more because I didn’t have any way to look for the cheapest option on flowers, venue etc, and of course I could not do a lot of DIY stuff since I could not carry too much stuff with me.
The pro was that I got married where I grew up and our American guests looooved everything. Totally worth it.
Post # 8
I was actually reading a very good article on the new Archbishop on BBC News, where he said that his eleven years as an oil executive really helped him in his work with the church. Also he has alway worked in urban parishes (london, coventry and liverpool) which I’m sure are very hard to run so he seems like a very competent person.
I’m thinking of trying to contact the church in rome to get and idea of how hard it would be to book and then contact a few venues I like and do the same in england and see which sounds best.
My family would be happier if I got married in Italy but I don’t want to penalize SO’s guests since most of them will be coming from the US…
Post # 9
My dream is to one day go to Italy. I have never even been on a plane because I am scared to death, but to go to Italy, I totally would! I have to vote ITALY
Post # 10
I don’t think there is a big difference for people from the US to fly to London or to fly to Rome. It’s just an extra short fly. Besides, if they fly with some major European company (say Air France, or Lufthansa etc) they’d still have to change plane in Paris, Frankfurt, whatever. We recently flew Los Angeles – Rome with Alitalia and it was a very comfortable flight (we usually fly Lufthansa or Swiss, but Alitalia was comparable).
Also, the good part with Rome is that there are a lot of things to do/places to see for your guests before and/or after the wedding. Needless to say, Rome itself is amazing, and with the FrecciaBianca (o Rossa, don’t remember) you can go to Florence in only 1 hour, I believe?
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I wouldn’t base the decision on the US guests- like julesjules83 said, it might not be that much difference, depending on exactly where your guests are coming from. People will make a vacation out of it anyway.
Post # 12
@julesjules83 It’s the frecciarossa but personally I prefer the new train company Italo.
Trenitalia are just so bad!
Post # 13
@walnutgirl: yeah it was just an example to say that there are lots of places tourists usually like to visit that are really close and can be reached without too much trouble. I don’t like Florence, personally, but it was everybody’s favorite place, for some reason. After Cinque Terre.
Post # 14
@julesjules83 yes I know, also I’m agonizing over it because of the time of yr, here from May to October it’s really hot (my date is indicative) but I know that doing it during the winter would make it hard for ppl to come
Post # 15
a bit late I know but I had a similar dilemma since Fiance & I also live in Rome but are both UK-raised.
Eventually we decided on the UK, tbh I would have preferred the Campidoglio but he wanted to make it easy for his family to make it. What I can say is that the long-distance planning is quite stressful.
I would vote Rome for you – the American guests will adore it and it’ll make your life a lot easier for planning
Post # 16
I say Italy – but why not somewhere outside of Rome? Cinque Terre? Lakes District?