(Closed) In your experience, is a no-reply usually a ‘no’?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did people who didn't RSVP ultimately attend your wedding?
    Most did. : (1 votes)
    7 %
    Most did not. : (10 votes)
    71 %
    About an even number did and did not ultimately attend. : (2 votes)
    14 %
    Other (explained below)... : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Haven’t been married yet obviously but of the brides I have talked to in the past (whose weddings I attended), they said that any ‘no’ replies were definitely no shows and have never once heard of people changing their minds last minute. But also that they had a ton of folks who didn’t reply either way and ultimately did not show up, since the couple was expected to be mindreaders, and it didn’t occur to them at all that they might need to track anyone down who couldn’t be bothered to reply. They also mentioned to only invite people you absolutely want to be in attendance. At the same time, they said to never assume anything. In a few cases, there were a couple were shocked that they had 100% attendance when they were not expecting anywhere near that many due to being told to only expect a certain percentage, the latter of which you absolutely cannot go by. Ultimately, you won’t know until the wedding day.

    Post # 4
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t know our exact stats, but we had 20ish people we hadn’t heard from when the RSVP date passed.  A third of them did RSVP yes (they were waiting to the last minute to make travel plans, etc).

    You aren’t going to know until you talk to everyone.  Its a pain, but it has to be done.  

    Post # 5
    1137 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    The people who didn’t RSVP were a mix for us–a number of people didn’t reply because they thought we “knew they were coming.”  Why would I just assume that?  That’s what an RSVP is for!!  Those people were able to get a hold of and verify their status–the people who never called us back definitely didn’t show up.  

    Post # 6
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Out of the people who didn’t respond to the wedding invitation, we probably had 1/3 of those people actually end up attending. The people who didn’t respond to the invitation OR our follow up attempts did not attend.

    Post # 7
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I would say many many of our late or non-RSVPs were actually people intending to come.  We are basically the first of all our friends to get married, and RSVPing is not high on the radar.

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