Post # 1
My SO and I are contemplating the idea of eventually moving in togehter. When we discuss it, we discuss getting a two bedroom apartment because we both value our alone time (and it’s easier to have guests spend the night), but he also wants a 2 BATH apartment because “I have too many bottles and things in the shower” Apperently, except for a very short stint in college where he had a horrifying experience with community showers, he has never shared a bathroom with anyone, and doesn’t want to.
All he has is a toothbrush and a razor, I don’t understand why they need their own dedicated room. He also doesn’t have especially bad…gastrointestinal problems. While this may work in the short-term, I don’t see this as a successful long-term demand.
Does anyone else think this is silly?
Post # 3
Seems silly to me. Yes I have a lot of bottles and stuff but since my husband doesn’t need a lot in the shower, it doesn’t bug him. It does help to have a 2 sink bathroom though so all your stuff can be around one and the hand soap and the shaving cream around the other sink.
Post # 4
Hm. I think it would be nice to have separate bathrooms, but maybe not that practical! We often want to brush our teeth, etc, at the same time when we are sleepy or grouchy at night, or occassionally need the bathroom at the same time in the morning- maybe there is something else that makes him desire privacy?
I was at someone’s house once and they had a girl’s bathroom and a boy’s bathroom. I was like… “okay…”
Post # 5
Yeah, that seems odd. While it’s *nice* to have the space completely your own, I wouldn’t call it a requirement. We have a a 2.5 bed house, and right now have our own bathrooms only since its there anyways. When we have guest or when we have children later, then he’ll come back and use the master bath, which is current ‘mine’.
Post # 6
In an ideal world, I’d have two sinks in the bathroom, more counter space, maybe even two bathrooms. But… I suck it up and we deal with one. It’s not a big deal. If you get married and have children, are you going to need to get a new bathroom so everyone can have their own? Lol.
Post # 7
Haha he’ll get used to it soon. 🙂
Post # 8
We are older and we do have separate bathrooms. I have a ton of stuff that I like to keep out and it sometimes gets in his way, so separate bathrooms are a must for us. I don’t see anything wrong with it. I saves us from having arguements about “Your stuff is taking over the bathroom”, and also from him taking my stuff and putting it under the sink where I forget about it. I used to think I was out of stuff and going out of my mind when he put stuff away that he didn’t think that I needed to have out. Also, guys do have stuff to, so they deserve to have a place that is their own, so they can spread out too.
Post # 9
Haha this does seem silly, but as a girl that has shared her bathroom with four brothers growing up, various nephews, nieces & roomates in college and when i moved out… when SO and i are finally living in the same house, we will each have our own bathroom and i CANT WAIT!! I’m so excited I can’t stand it LOL
Post # 10
I would love to have even an additional half-bath. It would be so helpful when getting ready in the morning so we wouldn’t constantly be bumping into each other. But to demand a second bathroom seems a little silly to me.
Post # 11
Not silly at all actually. FI and I each have our own bathroom and I can tell you right now that we will NEVER go back to sharing a bathroom. Our first apartment had one bathroom and it was do-able but having our own bathrooms is nothing short of awesome.
My bathroom is the master and his is the hall. We both LOVE having our own space. We work for the same company so we commute together. We are able to shower at the same time (in our own showers) so it greatly cuts down on the amount of time that it takes us to get ready in the morning. I shed like crazy so he doesn’t have to deal with my hair all over the place and I dont have to deal with his inability to aim properly. It really makes for a VERY happy relationship and I totally suggest it.
Post # 12
Wow, that sounds ike a living together adjustment that he’s really going to have to get over. He’s lucky you guys don’t live in my part of the country – here, all the buildings are old (Boston), and even the HOUSES don’t have 2 bathrooms unless they’ve been specifically remodelled recently to add one in. My sister in law, for example, has a large 3-bedroom house…and one bathroom. Closets and bathrooms are both a shortage in New England.
I personally think it’s a little ridiculous that he wants you guys to pay rent on an additional bathroom because he can’t get over how many bottles you have.
Post # 13
@crayfish:to be fair, it also drives him crazy that I sometimes squeeze the toothpaste tube in the middle, so we’d have to have two tubes of toothpaste.
Nope, I still think it’s silly.
Post # 14
We have our own bathrooms in our apt now – it’s like 1000 times better than sharing one. We used to share one and I would be stuck “holding it” for like 30 minutes while he showered and had toilet time in the morning. I’m not going back to 1 bathroom – even if we were to share a shower, we need at least another half bath so 2 toilets.
It’s not going to be realistic for everyone but if you can swing it – it’s a huge plus.
Post # 15
I think its silly and he will just have to adjust to living with a woman. I’ve shared plenty of bathrooms with roommates at college and its not that hard to just fall into a cycle whereby you can each do your business without getting in each others way.. its part of living with someone.
Post # 16
Right now SO and I have one bathroom with one sink. If possible in the future we would have seperate bathrooms. I have a lot of bottles and hair stuff and he actually has a lot of his own bottles and things. Plus using the bathroom becomes tricky when one person wants some privacy.
I think he is going to need to learn what it is like to share a bathroom because obviously you two will be sharing personal space but I think if he wants a seperate bathroom and the two of you can afford it then I would be happy to oblige his request.