Post # 1
Okay, Ive had a thread like this before but as the wedding gets sooo close, I wanted to revive it.
My FI is in a wheelchair (result of a car accident in 2009…hardest time in my life!). And for the ceremony, I will be sitting on a chair across from him. I thought that instead of reaching all the way over from my chair for our first kiss, I’d stand up, adjust my dress, and then sit on his lap for our first kiss. Do you think this would be viewed as inappropriate? I just don’t think a long reach from my chair will make for as nice photos…but then if I do sit in his lap, there will be an awkward waiting period while I adjust myself and find out how to sit onhim in my dress lol.
Im also open to other suggestions.
Post # 3
That’s a really good question. What about just standing up and leaning down to kiss him? Or would you rather be at the same height?
Post # 4
Hmmm, while you were describing it, I pictured you standing up and leaning down and giving him a kiss. I don’t know if I would say that sitting on his lap would be inappropriate, but in the middle of the ceremony, I think it may look awkward.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s inappropriate but all I can think of if the pictures. You could be blocking him or vice versa from the cameras. At least if you lean in then there is a side profile of boh of your faces.
Post # 6
Not inappropriate at all. I think it would actually be really cute, as long as you don’t straddle him of course!
I don’t think photos would be an issue as long as your photographer is aware of how you’re going to be having the first kiss. He/she could take it from a different angle to make it work.
Post # 7
Can you sit side by side instead of across from him and then it would be easier to kiss him. Think of teens kissing in a movie theatre, its easier because they are sitting right next to each other side by side
Post # 8
i don’t think it’s inappropriate, but i don’t think the pictures will be as nice. if you’re sitting on his lap, you’ll be at an awkward angle… i know if i tried to do that, i’d probably end up with a double chin and jutting out/weirdly placed arms!
Post # 9
I personally (and being a big cheted woman) would think it would be MORE inappropriate to lean over to kiss him. as far as streching across to do it, i think it will look kind of.. distant and even cold, like you don;t like eachother… lol
I am sure you will be so excited you are going to do whatever feels right in the moment anyway!
Post # 10
I honestly think that it would be awesome if you sat in his lap. One of my best friends is a quad and if I was at his wedding and his wife sat in his lap to kiss him I would love it and think it was totally sweet! Maybe if he could face front first before you do it so that everyone can get a good view of it ;).
Post # 11
Is your main goal photos? Or the intimacy of the kiss?
Post # 12
I voted “sit in his lap”, but i agree with many others here that it could look really cute if you leaned over and kissed him!
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s inappropriate, but didn’t vote. I’d suggest going with whatever feels right when it’s time. Whatever is in your heart and feels right at that moment will be perfect 🙂
Post # 14
Hmm I voted sit in his lap, but i don’t think you’ll go wrong either way. It’s your special day and your special time.
Post # 15
I like the idea of you sitting on his lap, that seems so sweet to me.
But, do what you & your FI wants to do! If you want to lean over or sit on his lap, do it! Neither is inappropirate.
Post # 16
I think sitting on his lap would give the best photos. Maybe try practising? I know it will be different with a dress on, but it might be worth it to see what it would feel like sitting beside him vs. sitting on him. How close are your chairs going to be? If you’re sitting side by side with the chairs touching I think either or would be fine.