Post # 1
Just wanted to share something that still bothers me from my reception.
I got married August 3, 2012. When I got engaged in August 2011, I asked my friend, L, to be a bridesmaid. In December 2011, she passed away suddenly. It made some parts of wedding planning almost unbearable some days. So anyway…
When planning the reception my husband and I decided that, instead of our guests clinking glasses we would create a donation jar for the for her cause. My MOH made the announcement regarding the jar during her speech. Donation = we kiss. Not a single person clinked their glass after that – and the jar was a success.
Except ONE person, who I already am not too fond of, my step-grandmother. She repeatedly clinked her glass. After we ignored it, she then turned her chair to face the head table, made a face, rolled her eyes and gestured to us. I pointed at the jar and smiled, and she just rolled her eyes again. She let on like this for awhile.
And no, she isn’t senile or your typical old traditional grandma. She’s more of an acquaintance to me than a family member (same with my grandpa – that’s a different story). It just breaks my heart that someone would be so rude.
Post # 3
that is rude, but it’s time to move on and get over it. remember what matters:
Post # 4
She sounds like a douchebag.
Post # 5
@vmec: Thank you. Sometimes it takes an outsider to deal with it. The hardest part is forgetting the ridiculous look on her face.
Post # 6
How rude! I cant believe she would act like that, some people..sheesh. Im glad the jar was a success and by the sounds of your relationship with her and your grandpa it doesnt sound like you’ll have to deal with them very often which is great! I wouldnt let it ruin the memories of your special day, dont give her that satisfaction, just remember the positives even though Im sure you wanted to smack her haha
Post # 7
There’s some stuff from my wedding that was just awful and getting past it is difficult. Mine was 2 months before yours and I can say that those kinds of things do fade with time if you don’t feed them. It’s good to vent here and let it out, but try not to waste too much of your energy being hurt and bitter over it.
Anyway, I’m glad your jar was a success! Such a beautiful thing to do.
Post # 8
Aside from the fact that it was really rude behavior considering such a loving gesture on your part.. the title of your post had me laughing before I even opened the thread! I was picturing that TV show Betty White has about old people playing pranks..
Anyways, I’m sorry she didn’t get the gesture, but the important part is that you paid tribute to a friend. Very touching.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. That was so thoughtful of you to collect donations for her cause. Sounds like it was a success and I hope you can remember honoring her at your wedding.
As for your step-grandmother – some people… it’ll be a funny story after a few years, just try to forget about it now.
Post # 10
Ignore the poor behavior, the good news is that the jar was a success and that is what really matters. If it is still eating at you, talk to her about it.
Post # 11
@anghp: at her funeral, you should clink glasses the entire time.
Okay okay, maybe not. that was a little spiteful on my part. I understand that you feel distaste towards your stepgrandmother. (fyi, I HATE mine with every fiber of my being.) I am glad that your jar was a success, and I am so sorry that your friend died. But I am sure that she was looking down on you smiling during your entire wedding. I am sorry that your SGM had to ruin her moment. Some people just don’t understand how to respect others.