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    octoberosa    October 10, 2010   Woodstock, NY

    Is this dress too white/too wedding dress-y to wear as a guest to a friend's wedding (my FI's cousin to be exact)? I absolutely love it, and in truth it does remind me of the neckline I envisioned for my own gown-- but didn't end up getting. If it is inappropriate (due to color?), would it work to wear this to my own rehearsal dinner or brunch? 

    Thanks! Oh, and if you know of any dresses like this that aren't white/ivory, I'd love to see them! I'm obsessed with the lace and the cut. 

    http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2962727/0~2376776~2374327~2374331~6014146?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6014146&P=2

     
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    Min    August 21, 2010  

    Id say its inappropriate to wear to someones elses wedding. Its beautiful though and would be perfect for your rehearsal or and other of your wedding events.

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    Sorry- I say go ahead and wear it to your own wedding events, but not to your friend's wedding.  Honestly with so many people choosing to wear short dresses nowadays this almost looks like a wedding dress to me.  I saw nordstrom's has a version in black and tan that would be ok to wear to someone else's wedding- if you don't mind having two of the same dress...

    http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2993455?refsid=212338&refcat=0~2376776~2378685~2380947~2380968&SourceID=1&SlotID=1&origin=related&cm_Sp=Related-Items-_-Product-_-Manual

     
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    yummyducky66    August 29, 2010  

    Sorry but I think it's going to cause a few raised eyebrows at your friend's wedding! I would totally save this beauty for your own events, maybe rehearsal dinner?

     
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    octoberosa    October 10, 2010   Woodstock, NY

    Oh, that's awesome. Thanks! I didn't realize that they had it in other colors. Not sure if I like it AS much in black, but it's still lovely. I know, it really does look like a dress for a casual wedding. I think I might think twice if someone wore it to mine. Too bad... 

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    That's a really pretty dress! I would definitely wear it to my own wedding events but not someone else's.

     
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    octoberosa    October 10, 2010   Woodstock, NY

    Thanks everyone! I agree. I think I just wanted to find an event to wear it to, and I wasn't sure I was so keen on wearing white the night before/day after my wedding. But, maybe I love the idea! 

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Beautiful dress.  But yeah, I wouldn't wear it to a wedding.  Could you imagine if her dress was similar?  Yikes! 

     
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    cvbee    August 13, 2010   canada

    it is definitely inappropriate to wear a white dress

    can you get it in another colour?

    otherwise, if you love it and want to get it you can save it for another dressy occasion

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Definitely inappropriate to wear to a wedding.

    It'll work for any of your own events, but definitely not a guest's dress.

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    Oh, I wouldn't worry about wearing white to your own wedding events!  I think it would be great as a going-away dress too. 

     
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    kate169    May 21, 2011   Virginia

    I agree with greenleafmountain. It would be really cute as a going away dress!

     
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    Ms. Yellow Birdie    July 24, 2010   Kentucky

    I agree w/ the other bees----you don't wanna be THAT girl. You know, the one who wears white and then all the guests are whispering under their breaths about? haha But it is really beautiful!

     
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    octoberosa    October 10, 2010   Woodstock, NY

    No, I definitely don't want to be "that" girl! I probably wouldn't have had the courage to wear it anyway, or the audacity, but I just came across it and wanted to employ it in my wardrobe somehow. What's a "going-away" dress? Is that what you wear at the end of the night? I hadn't thought of that... 

     
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    lkbphmd    August 7, 2010   MN (ceremony in Omaha, NE)

    I agree with everyone else, I would probably not be thrilled if you showed up at my wedding wearing that.  You could wear the dress at the end of the night or any other wedding related activity you might be having.  I've seen that dress before as well and do like it.

     
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    hisbunny    March 13, 2010   ND

    I agree, I don't think that it is an appropriate dress to wear, but get it for your own!!  It is really pretty. :)

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    I LOVE it in the black!!  It's a really pretty dress--in the white it's great for your own wedding events, and in the black, it would be great for an evening wedding as a guest.  Lovely!

     
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    greenleafmountain    7.31.2010  

    A going-away dress is generally for people leaving straight for their honeymoon- but I think now they're more common.  It's the dress you change into right before you leave the reception and say your final goodbyes, and then leave in so you don't have to try to fit a poofy wedding dress in the get away car. That way you'd be more comfortable if you had a long drive or even a plane flight right after the wedding.

    I don't know what (if any) kind of honeymoon you're taking, but it could also work for dinner on a cruise :)

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    Inappropriate. I would be upset if someone wore that to my wedding..

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    Beautiful dress, but I would never wear it to a wedding.  Unless I wanted people to be talking about me and wondering what I was thinking when I chose to wear that :)

     
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    hopewell    July 31, 2010   Baltimore, Maryland

    I love this dress!  I guess you have your answer already but I wanted to thank you for posting this because I think I may get it for my rehearsal dinner or the blessing of the vows in church. 

     
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    thefuturemrsgibbs    June 12, 2010   Northern California

    If you had to ask.. then probably that means it is inappropriate. I wouldn't wear it to your friend's wedding. It's poor etiquette to wear white or ivory to a wedding. You wouldn't like it if they did that to you.

    It would however make a better dress for your rehearsal dinner.... 

     
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    Monkeygirl    September 5, 2010   Philadelphia

    Beautiful dress, but inappropriate to wear to someone else's wedding. Do they have it in a different color?

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    Oooh I agree with the others, it is pretty but not for someone else's wedding. I was on Nordy's website the other day, they have a lot of nice colorful options

     
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    clane616    May 7, 2011   Chicago; wedding in Florida

    I agree with the other bees....for someone else's wedding it's not appropriate though it is amazing!!

     
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    grace8367    September 6, 2009   Chicago

    Agreed- at your own wedding events- A-OK, but not in white or ivory at someone else's wedding

     

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