Inapropriate Message??

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Yes you should confront him, especially considering how he called you a nightmare to his ex! Did you make it clear when he showed you that message how wrong that was?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Im confused…what did the first mesage say? And why did he show it to you?

 

You’ve been married 5 months and he’s doing this now? This is ugly water to be treading in bee…don’t brush it under the rug. Have an ultimatum and stick to it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be worried AND confront him. Unless you both signed up for an open relationship, his behaviour is hugely inappropriate. It sounds as if he wants the penny and the bun here. In other words, he is getting such benefits that accrue from marriage whilst intending to live his life like a single man. 

You say you’ve only been married for 5 months so has your relationship changed since marriage or did you or he have doubts about getting married?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

He needs to cut contact with this woman, or at least stop suggesting they meet up and he will console her. His behaviour is inappropriate.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Yeah, that’s definitely inappropriate. You need to sit him down and talk about the messages to this woman. Is the ex the same woman or another woman? What prompted him to show you those messages with her?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

He voluntarily showed you the hateful message about you to his ex?!  What was the context for that?

This does not sound good at all.  I would definitely confront him.  I’d want to know where I stood.  He’s sending you a pretty clear message there.

 

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

KRW85:  I would tell your husband the only woman he should be consoling with a bottle of wine is you. Unless he wants to be smacked with one. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Inappropriate does not describe this behavior! He acts like a total jerk!

why would he write his ex that his wife was a nightmare? And why would he proceed to show you? Being sorry would not have been enough to make up for that!

and meetin up with women he never met before with a bottle of wine to make them feel better? 

No offense, OP, but if you have to check back here first whether this is inappropriate behavior, it sounds to me like he knows he can get away with all that shit he’s doing to you. 

respect yourself and make it very clear to him that if he would like for this marriage to last, there’s a lot of work to be done. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

KRW85:  There was something wrong with what he said. You need to tell him that his behaviour is hurtful and inappropriate and you won’t tolerate it anymore. If you even have to ask, ‘Is this inappropriate’, you have become a doormat. You need to respect yourself and expect him to respect you. I would say counselling is the next big step you both need to take.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Birdi:  +1   

I find it hard to believe he thinks it’s ok to meet some random woman to drink wine.  Have you asked him what he thinks of you chatting up random men online to go have drinks when they feel sad? Bloody hell!

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