Post # 1
Please help me I want to do the right thing…
I’m very close to my parents and my future in-laws. My parents are paying for 100% of the wedding, my problem….should I include the names of my in-laws on the invitations? I know the rule…but really, would it be rude if I just put my parents on the invite? Anybody in the same boat?
Post # 3
Traditionally the wedding and reception are hosted by the bride’s parents – so your invitation would say somthing like:
Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of the daughter, kygirl, to your-FI’s-name, date time place.
If your parents are hosting (e.g., your in-laws not paying) but you want to acknowledge them on the invitation, you would say:
Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of the daughter, kygirl, to your-FI’s-name, son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents, date time place.
If they were actually co-hosting the event, you could put all their names right up front, but if your parents are actually hosting the event (read paying the bill) this would probably be sort of a slap in the face to them.
We are actually going to put my FI’s parents names on the invitation, as "son of…" since my parents are hosting, but we also want to acknowledge his parents.
There is a ton of sample wording at:
Post # 4
Thank you Suzanno, that’s exactly what I needed to know!
Post # 5
My parents are paying for 95% of the wedding. We still put his parents names on the invites. We put it like this:
Mr & Mrs Brides Parents
together with Mr & Mrs Grooms Parents
Request the honour etc…
I wanted to make them still feel included even though they aren’t contributing financally.
Post # 7
My tradition says:
X , daughter of X and Y
Y, son of X and Y
request your presence etc etc. so it is a comination of what is stated above
Post # 8
Its funny, the invitation wording is the ONLY thing my mom is insisting on having absolutely her way. Luckily as my sister also had her husband’s parents on the invite (son of), my mom thinks that is standard. So we all get what we want. Actually if we had a huge disagreement I think she would compromise, but its kind of cute that she is so adamant about that one thing as she is bending over backwards to take my wishes into account on everything else. (Which is not exactly like her!)