Post # 1
My wedding is 5 months away, so I’m in no huge rush. I’m trying to think of ways to include my now 1 year old daughter into our ceremony.
I want my wedding to highlight that me, my daughter, and my Fiance are becoming a family.
Here’s my current plan:
Have Dad walk me down the ailse. I’m in one arm and my daughter is carried in the other. When we get to the alter, he hands off my daughter to my Fiance, and then he gives me away.
Ceremony will be short and too the point so that daughter doesn’t become bored and restless.
When it’s time to kiss, we kiss her on each cheek and then kiss each other. We then walk down the aisle together as a family.
Anyone see a possible hiccup in the plan? Opinions, please!
Post # 3
In an ideal world I think your plan is perfect and lovely and symbolic and beautiful.
The only thing I’d be worried about is your daughter. It will probably be quite overwhelming for her. (You obviously know your daughter better than I) I think instead of handing her to Fiance could you leave her with grandma or someone else she is close to for the ceremony? You and Fiance will be busy with vows and if she does, for whatever reason, become restless there’s someone close to her that can keep her calm/occupied. Still walk down with her, still kiss her.
Post # 4
I think it sounds sweet, but I’d have a back up plan such as your daughter sitting with your parents in the front row in case she gets overwhelmed.
Post # 5
oh finally someone in the same situation as us!!
Our daughter will be 2 when we get married, i love the idea for sharing kisses and walking down the aisle together as a family.
Our daughter is one now, and my advise would be to have her get as much sleeps during the day, or atleast schedule in a nap for her right before she is due to attend the ceremony. also i’d be getting a family member or someone to put her in a pram or something, so you know she wont be crawling around everywhere. if she is anything like our girl – she may not like being held even for 10 minutes… but all kids are different, just a few things to think about 🙂
and i guess most importantly is just go with the flow, if she wants to have a scream etc, just nominate someone to take her away if it gets out of hand, that way you can continue on, she can come back to you in time to go back down the aisle!
Have you got her name somewhere in the ceremony? We havent thourght of a way to include our girl yet, maybe you have a few pointers there 😉
Post # 6
@ladyartichoke: @Roux: Very good points. We’re trying to elect someone that she is comfortable with, but also someone who won’t “miss” missing the ceremony, like Nana or Memaw would. Thank you both for the excellent points!
@Missbubbly: Yeah, she’s very wiggly, too!
Fiance and I are avoiding religious ceremony, so we’re doing a nice speech (there’s a nice thread with secular qoutes) followed by an excahanging of vows (which is where we will talk about Cora and our duties and responsabilities as her parents). The officiant will then say, “I pronounce you man, woman, and child.”
Short, simple, and sweet 🙂