- 7 years ago
Hey hive, had a funny, somewhat awkward, situation the other night and thought you might have some good ideas for me! I apologize for the long-winded explanations, but I’m sick today and my brain is off.
Background: FI and I won’t be getting married until 2012 or 2013, so we haven’t even officially asked our wedding party yet. We each have a few friends/family who we know will be in our wedding party, but we would rather wait until a year out to officially ask, so that we make sure we are asking everyone we want at the same time. FI has a niece (8 yrs old) and a nephew (2 yrs old) and I have 2 nieces (3 yrs old and the other is due next month!).
So at the time of our wedding, the kids will be about 11, 6, and 3 for the girls and 5 for the boy. I have been envisioning having my two nieces (the younger girls) and FI’s nephew as our flower girls and ring bearer. I want all of the kids to be involved though, because I feel like it is all or none with them. They are so young that I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and I really love them and want to include them. I have been thinking having the older girl as a junior bridesmaid.
Here is the situation: I was playing with the 8-yr-old girl the other night, when she asked me, out of the blue, if she could be the flower girl in our wedding because she has never been a flower girl before. Shoot, uhmmm…but I think I handled it pretty well. I told her that I had been thinking about it and since she would be 10 or 11 by then, I thought she would be old enough to be one of my bridesmaids if she wanted to. She asked me what a bridesmaid was, and I explained it to her and made it sound very important, and then asked her whether she would rather be a flower girl or a bridesmaid. She (luckily) said that she would rather be a bridesmaid.
I love these kids and I just want them all to feel happy and like they are an important part of our wedding because we love them (FI doesn’t have any other siblings besides his sister, so he is their one and only uncle). I don’t know what I would have done if his niece hadn’t gone for my bridesmaid idea…probably just given her whatever she wants 🙂 Thankfully, the other kiddos are all too young to even broach this subject yet! So I guess we have unofficially asked our first member of the bridal party…
I know we are a long way off, but I am bound to get many more questions from her regarding this. Any suggestions on how I can emphasize her importance as a junior bridesmaid and make her feel special? Either from now until the wedding, or during the actual wedding. So, help a girl out, and tell me how you would/did make the kids in your bridal party feel important, loved, and happy with their parts in the wedding? Advice? Cute ideas?