- 5 years ago
Some background: I have a doctorate degree and do very well for myself. I have supported myself independently since I was 18, including throughout college. My SO makes twice what I do. He is gracious and generous and always thinks of his money as “ours”.
I feel tremendous guilt over him paying for everything for us. We live separately (I own my own home and he rents) and each pay our own bills, but knowing that he is saving up and will be paying for most of the wedding-related expenses (probably 90%) makes me feel like a non-contributor in our relationship. I want to work on these issues I have now to make it an easier transition once we do get married and combine all of our income into one account.
Any other bees have these feelings? How do you come to terms with the fact that you can’t contribute as much financially?
Ugh, edited for paragraphs. I swear they were there.