- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My fiance is first generation Korean and we may (or may not) have guests from Korea at the wedding. I want to honor his heritage with some Korean wedding traditions. I’m not sure how to do it though. Here are a few traditions:
1. The Bride is supposed to give the FIL (future in-laws) chestnuts and dates, which the FILs throw at the bride and she is supposed to catch them in the skirt of her wedding dress. The chestnuts and dates are symbols of children and the throwing and catching symbolizes good luck for fertility.
2. Vows are taken in a ceremony called kunbere. Bride and groom bow to each other and seal their vow by sipping a special wine poured into a hollowed-out plant similar to a pumpkin grown by the bride’s mother.
3. A pair a carved wooden ducks represented the married couple, as it was believed that ducks mated for life. So are geese-we’ll get to this later. The position of the ducks signifies the state of the household. When the ducks face nose-to-nose there is harmony in the marriage. However, when there is tension/ conflict/ fighting/ sticking out your tongue at one another, the ducks are tail-to-tail.
4. Cranes are a symbol of long life and may be represented on the bride’s attire.
5. The Groom is supposed to give the MOB (Mother of the Bride) a live Goose. Wild geese mate for life, so his gift is a promise that he will care for her daughter for life. Today wooden geese are used. I have this hilarious image of Mr. P trying to wrestle with a goose to give to my mom.
6. Traditional Wedding Korean Attire is really cool. I’m considering buying a Hanbok for the rehearsal dinner although they can cost a pretty penny.
7.Hand lanterns were used for lighting the way from the groom’s home to the bride’s home on the night before the wedding. Maybe we can have hand lanterns on our dinner table? Or at the rehearsal dinner?
8. Entertainment is expected, but can range from classical Korean music to family members singing along with a karaoke machine.
I’d also like to include some Korean music in the ceremony but am totally lost on where to look.