Post # 1
Can you all offer your opinions? Maybe there are some brides out there with a small child or children that can offer some advice and perspective…
My fiance and I have a son who will be 14 months old on our wedding day in February. He is the light of our life and we are obsessed with him.
I did not plan to have him be a ringbearer in our wedding because he will still be so young. I presume he’ll still be kind of new to walking and I don’t know if he could handle walking down the aisle and holding a ring pillow and things like that. I had planned on my 4 year old nephew being our ringbearer.
I’ve gotten some people who are SHOCKED that our son wouldn’t be in our wedding party and really look at me funny when I tell them this. Is this shocking to any of you? It’s not like we want to hide him away somewhere, or pretend he’s not there – we’re going to take a crapload of pictures with him, etc. I just thought he was too young for ringbearer responsibilities….Am I being overly protective or concerned for him?
Post # 3
@cpierson: I wanted my 12 month old niece to be a flower girl and had to scrap it because there was no way she would’ve made it down the aisle! How do you feel about having your ring bearer pulling your son in a wagon??
Post # 4
Can someone walk him down the aisle, holding his hand?
Also, my SIL had her son come up during the vows and she and my BIL exchanged special “family” vows. It was really sweet.
Post # 5
@cpierson: I’m not married, nor do I have any young children, but I don’t think you’re being overly protective or concerned for your son. Not including him in the wedding doesn’t mean you’re not including him in your life- as you said, he is still very young and might not necessarily be able to assume any responsibilities for the big day. He will still be a part of your pictures and your wedding, just not the ceremony. I suppose you could consider having a bridesmaid walk down the aisle carrying your son, and have him sit with a relative throughout the ceremony, but I really think you should do what you’re most comfortable with.
Post # 6
We have a niece that will be 18 months on our wedding day. We are having her as a flower girl, and we are doing the wagon thing. At the same time, we have said again and again, if she is cranky and not wanting to preform the day of the wedding, she can sit with her other grandparents.
Her older brother was about the same age at his parent’s wedding, and he stood between his parents holding thier hands durring the cermony, but it was a very short thing (it took us longer to finding parking than their wedding took)
Maybe naming him as a ring bearer, and if he doesn’t want to preform, he can sit with the grandparents. Or you could even have him “give you away” by carrying him down the isle with you.