Post # 1
I have a bit of a dilema! I am VERY close to both of my parents and my Sister. My sister is my MOH (and only bridesmaid)& my Dad is walking me down the aisle as well as probably a Father/Daughter dance. I feel like my Mother has no ‘role’ in the day, even though she has been very involved in planning. I have looked up a few ways to include her in the ceremony but nothing really ‘fits’. We don’t want to do a unity candle as we are getting married outside and I am afraid it will keep blowing out (which doesn’t bode well!), and she woudln’t feel comfortable doing a speech.
I feel like she should be a bigger part of the day but I am not sure how to do it!
If anyone has any suggestions I would love to hear them!
Post # 2
Kits19: Why don’t you have them both give you away?
Post # 3
Kits19: i know what you mean. my mom will be with me all day getting ready. shes helped me so much planning and been supporitve and always ready to hear anything i need to talk about. she and i are very close. she is actually writing a poem for my FI and I, so i told her i would print it in the ceremony programs. i think it gives her a nice little nod for all the support shes given us.
Post # 4
I had felt the same way. My Dad walked me down the aisle, but once we got to the officiant/my husband, I had my Mom come and stand up next to me, too. Then our officiant asked “Who supports this woman in her decision to marry this man?” and my parents answered “we do” and they both sat down together.
Post # 5
You could give a rose to your mom and your fiance’s mom at the beginning of the ceremony. Or as someone else suggested have both of your parents walk you down the aisle. I’ve seen that lots of times.
Post # 6
Kits19: Have you talked to her about it? Her role is MOB, and she may be perfectly happy in doing nothing that day other than enjoying it. Most Moms are happiest being behind the scenes and helping to make sure the day runs smoothly.
Post # 7
I did think about having them both walk me down the ailse, but I feel like it might take something away from my Dad. Although really it would make the most sense.
I actually love the idea of a poem – My mother is amazing at writing cute little rhymes for cards etc.
I wish there was a designated traditional job for her, then it would be so much easier!
Post # 8
My friend had her parents both walk her down. And she danced with her mom and her dad in two separate dances to have her mother be included. I would have done that if I had an actual wedding, but we chose to not go that route since we didn’t want to have a wedding.
Post # 9
I had both of my parents walk me down the aisle. My dad had no problems with it at all. They are both my parents, they have both supported me my whole life, I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way.