Post # 1
I’m about a year away from my May 2010 wedding (we got engaged on New Year’s Eve!) and I’m finding it really, really difficult to make ANY decisions. I second-guess myself on everything from venue to colors to formality. The only things set in stone are my dress and our photographer!
I think part of the issue is that financially, the next year is kind of up in the air for us. We’re looking for a new apt. at the moment so we don’t know what our rent will be, our monthly budget, or how much we’ll be able to save. Our parents have generously offered to contribute to the wedding, but we don’t even know how much to ask them for yet!
Maybe living in a big city, there are just too many ridiculously fabulous options? Is anybody else having this problem?
Post # 3
Hey there! I think you just have to make one or two major decisions and other things will start to fall in place. Do you know relatively what size your guest list is? I would determine that first, then find a venue that you love that can accomodate your guest list. This will also help you set your budget. You might have to be somewhat flexible with your date – not all venues will be available for the exact date you have picked out.
Post # 4
I’m so having the same problems. I’ve spend a year with medical preoblems only working part time, Mr. Bookworm bounces between wanting an apartment or taking advantage of the $8K tax write off and buy a house. We just got engaged and are looking around for venues. I know the feel I want (country-rustic) but as for colors, caterers, flowers…. it changes everyday! I’m afraid of making the wrong choice. But I’m trying to let all of it go, and remember the most important decision of all, deciding to spend the rest of my life with Mr. Bookworm.
Post # 5
I agree with DEGirl. Once I picked my venue and colors, it felt like things naturally fell into place.
Post # 6
I’m totally on your page about too many choices – I’m in the process of planning and this is what I’m doing – The first thing I did was determine what size the wedding was going to be. I decided on a smaller size wedding – at the most 100 people. And then I started looking around at places and eliminating what I didn’t like – like I knew I needed a place that I can have the ceremony and reception at the same place – didn’t want it to be at a hotel – so I narrowed it down that way.
I don’t want to sound discouraging – but even though I have a place and size, I still feel like the process is overwhelming and it’s easy to get scattered because there ARE too many decisions that have to be made. I was lucky to have found a wedding planner who helps me stay focused with what is important to decide now vs. what we can think about later.
Eventually I’m sure it’ll all fall into place – it’s easy to get stressed about the planning aspect of it but when you take it one task at a time, it really helps to enjoy the process.
Post # 7
It can be overwhelming and it can be even more overwhelming when you see the fabulousness all over the Weddingbee, but you can only plan one wedding. Think of the one piece of the day that if you didn’t have it you would be sad and work from there. I found it really helpful to stick with my plan. Sure I loved the compass placecards that Laura Cooper Calligraphy did, but it didn’t really fit in my 19th century mansion wedding…stick to your plan and it will all work out 🙂