(Closed) Indecisive Bride

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Actually, I seemed to have no trouble. I think I was just so happy to be getting married, the first of just about everything I saw I seemed to love!

Post # 4
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

AHhahaha, I could have written this.  I am "Miss Indecisive", I don’t want to find out, but I’d say 75% of my posts are like, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I’M DOING, HELP MEEEEE?!?!?!.  I think what helped me narrow it down was finding a venue that I liked AND could afford. So we found a historic mansion and all of a sudden all these modern, structured elements didn’t make as much sense with the setting.  Now I have two veils (cathedral for ceremony, birdcage for recption), the flowers have all changed (multiple times over), instead of a satiny sheeth I have a lacy trumpet dress.  So… I’m probably not much help.

But, thinking back, I think it was really finding a venue.  I’m sure if we had ended up getting married at the baltimore aquarium (our first pick, but $$$$$) our wedding would look ultra different. We really had to think about a venue that was accessible for our guests (including my grandparents), one that we could either afford the on site caterer or that we could bring our own into. So maybe search around your area and get quotes for venues you like and let it take off from there.

 

Post # 5
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1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Oh man, I totally agree. I’m normally so decisive. Every other area of my life, I can point, choose, and never look back. But with the wedding, oh, with the wedding: dress drama, hair drama, veil drama. Every time I think I know exactly what I want, I double back and second guess myself. I realized this looking at wedding dresses until I found the right one – many can look good on me and I can feel good in most of them, but it’s like trying on characters and profiles for the day. It took *a lot* of dress attempts until I found a dress that was actually me, not a pretend version of me (as fun as it was to twirl in that Judd Waddel ballgown). Maybe it’s like that with the rest of the wedding details? I don’t know now that I’ve jettisoned so many of the details to elope, but maybe a bride has got to sort through all of the lovely options to find the one that is fundamentally her and her FI. Naturally, this doesn’t help anybody make a faster decision.

Post # 6
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Money! I am paying for the wedding and I am NOT taking out a loan! I am creating a wedding that expresses us but that won’t break the bank!

Post # 7
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Oh yes, me! BUT, Mr V is opinionated and sensible, so I can have as many fluffy options as I want and he homes in on the best one for me 😉

Failing that, if I like something I let myself get right into it, and if it’s not ‘the one’ then the phase doesn’t last and I get sick of it and can cross it off my list 😛 TIME is my ultimate test!

Post # 8
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2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I am hopeless! I change my mind all the time. One of my problems is that since we’re renewing our vows, we can basically do anything we want. We’re paying for everything ourselves, there is no religious requirements and just the two of us to answer too…the possibilities are ENDLESS. It might be a second marriage to somebody else by the end of it! I’m driving my poor husband crazy!

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