(Closed) Indecisive on Area for wedding and reception

posted 5 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Where should we have the wedding
    Cincinnati, Ohio- where we live : (8 votes)
    62 %
    Wheeling, WV- where fiance is from : (0 votes)
    Pittsburgh, PA- where we met : (4 votes)
    31 %
    Altoona, PA- where my family is from : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    409 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @jocrazy:  Option 3.  Its the most convienent for the most amount of people. 

    Post # 4
    662 posts
    Busy bee

    I think you should plan where you are.  I’m sure you can find a plan to get the grandparents there.  Maybe they could drive to your parents house and then ride the rest of the way in your parents car so they don’t have to drive so long.


    It will be way less stressful and much easier to plan.  Option 1.

    Post # 7
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I immediately ruled out option 2 and 3 when you said you didn’t have anyone to help you there. It would be a serious pain lugging wedding stuff back and forth, trying to communicate online or on the phone, traveling there and going to appointments by yourself. 

    Now, between 1 and 4 it’s a little bit trickier. Your friends are probably pretty used to traveling for weddings, so I wouldn’t weigh that too heavily. Your grandparents are the biggest issue, but it sounds like you’ll be doing a lot of extra work over the next year or so just to make one trip eaiser for them. I love my grandparents dearly, but it seems like you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself to accomodate them. I’m sure they wouldn’t want you to bend over backwards like this for them.

    In the end, I think the easiest decision is to have a wedding where you live. Plus, this is what most of your guests are probably expecting anyhow. Best of luck! 


    Post # 9
    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You can just get so much Moore bang for your buck in a small town… Does your fiancé still have family in Wheeling? Or maybe somewhere rural north of Cincinnati?

    Post # 12
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think it depends on which is more important to you – a least stressful planning situation, or having more of your family and friends able to attend.  


    Just remember, it can be stressful regardless of where you plan.  🙂  We live in Cinci and got married 2 hours away.  We did a lot of the work by phone and email, and only had to meet with vendors once or so to get stuff worked out.  

    Post # 14
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wasn’t saying 2 hours was hard… was just explaining that even just two hours got stressful sometimes.  Sounds like nothing is really ideal for you – good luck figuring it out!  

    Post # 15
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If you can afford a planner (even a partial planner) I would go with Pittsburgh. I went through a similar dilemmna because our friends and family are literally spread to the 4 corners of the US. We just made sure to choose a place that was driveable for the majority, and near an airport for the rest, and where there were affordable hotel options nearby. If people are traveling over an hour to come to your wedding, it’ll help them decide to attend if you consider how they will be getting there, and where they will stay when they get there…even if it costs you a little more for the venue, otherwise, you’re passing through the cost to the guests.

    I’ve been planning our wedding for a city 5 1/2 hours from where we live, it’s not ideal, but with the help of the internet and a great planner, I’m not too worried. In fact, it’s probably better that I can’t be dropping by to obsess over everything too often. My mom’s already told me that my grandparents probably won’t be able to come, with is too bad, but if we were closer to them many many more people wouldn’t be able to come. I think it’s just something to make peace with…nowadays more than ever people don’t necessarily live where they grew up, and we can’t expect things to be the way they were for previous generations. 

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