(Closed) Indecisiveness is going to be the death of me!!!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Every single day! I have second guessed everything I have done so far! I finally just had to tell myself that no matter what favor the guests get, no matter what the bridesmaid jewelry looks like, not matter what color the napkins are, no one is probably even going to remember them or pay that close attention to them at the wedding. They are just small details that no one even notices or thinks about besides for the bride (and maybe the groom).

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am the same exact way – I literally had/have two completely different weddings planned in my head and have flip flopped a million and one times. Now that we are just 3 months away I have no choice but to stick with what I have.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is totally me. And it sucks. I cant make up my mind on ANYTHING. I had a friend tell me that it is hard for her to help me because in my mind “I have two very different weddings going on” and she is unsure which one to help with. lol

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsDIY:  lol I refer to the poster often. Sometimes I start to have second thoughts and then I remember no one is going to notice that the orchids are two different sizes on my centerpiece! Only I’ll know and thats okay. As long as I’m married to my FI by the end of the day thats all that matters.

My FI even told me “Hippos we can get married in the back of alley for all I care…the only thing that matters is that at the end of they I can call you my wife.” After recovering from melting, I had to agree 🙂

 

@happyface:  I like it too…because its so true!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I have dealt with this too. So much so that last month we decided suddenly that we didn’t want to wait to be married anymore, and if that meant we had to give up a wedding in a certain destination, then so be it. We decided on the month we wanted to get married in and I just went for it. Within a week I put down a non-refundable deposit on our ceremony site and date. And just like that, my wedding destination had been decided.

I’ve just been going with my gut. As soon as I put money towards something, I don’t let myself question it anymore. I simply ignore my panic, lol. It really helps to purchase something as soon as I’m “sure” I want it, because I know I won’t let myself question it again once I do.

My advice to you would be to narrow down things to two options, and give yourself as much time as needed until you first feel confident in your choice. AS SOON as you feel “sure,” buy/book it and don’t think about it again. If you do, then just repeatedly tell yourself that it’s already been done and there’s no going back and start thinking about something else.

If I didn’t listen to my gut, I’d be getting married locally because I would panic at the thought of getting married in a foreign country. But the moment I felt that I truly wanted to do it, I booked our ceremony site as soon as I could and I refuse to let myself panic about it anymore. If I do, I just ignore it and tell myself, “What’s done is done.”

Also, letting your fiance know which option you like better and asking them to keep you on that track to keeping it can help a lot. My fiance has helped me multiple of times when I’d start to worry about my decision and he would be my rock and reassure me that I did what I really wanted (this was before I started not letting myself question things).

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

ME! Most recent example – we went to look at cakes yesterday and I came home with a headache and even less of an idea of what I might actually like lol. My wedding dress was not so bad – there were 5 that I liked that I managed to get down to 2 then spent a while deciding which was the one. Everything else I am hopeless on and it’s stressing me out gaaaaah!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MsDIY:  I already changed my shoes, lol! And I am still debating!

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