(Closed) Indifferent, uninvolved mom :(

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@perfectingfaith:  I’m sorry to hear that your mum is being like this 🙁 who knows why she is, maybe deep down she is a little jealous. My mum has been like this with me, not with me being engaged but because my boyfriend takes me out and treats me to things sometimes. Maybe because the attention isn’t on her, she appears ‘uninterested’ because the day won’t necessarily be all about her.

If I were you I would not tell her about any wedding stuff for a while and keep it on the down low. Eventually she might choose to talk to you about it if she knows you are busy with it all.

Post # 5
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@perfectingfaith:  Now you mention that I think she could be feeling a little jealous, and maybe a little resentment towards her own wedding! I think it would be best to just talk to other people about the wedding, I’m sure if she knew you were discussing it with others she would be envious and want to be more involved.

Post # 6
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4688 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

My mom is being a little hands-off because I called her controlling all the time and made it seem like I don’t want her help.I am very Type-a (some would say controlling…) and want things done “my way” and she knows that!

They (we) just can’t strike a balance, can they?!

Post # 7
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My mom used to act the same way. Whenever I talked about wedding plans she always changed the subject (usually to her and her boyfriend). It got to where I stopped talking about the wedding with her and asked my sister for her opinions and ideas. I never said anything because i didn’t want to cause any problems or unnecessary drama. I just kept thinking, you can’t make someone care about your wedding.  I don’t know what happened but now she is all about it. She is making all of our centerpieces, which was her idea. I hope your mom comes around. 

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