- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Since my ‘FI’ is still paying off my ring, im learning to TRY to be patient and not bring up the marriage talk around him for the time being. but it doesnt help when your tv is plastered with jewelry commercials and romantic comedies of happily ever after 😡
my last reminder came in watching the Dr. Oz show yesterday about ‘how old is too old to have a baby?’ the dreaded biological clock that never stops ticking, it brought up my fears of family planning and our timeline.
when i asked my Fiance when he wanted to have kids he told me 31, its like men dont understand how complicated family planning can be, he thinks firing off a few spermies equals an automatic bun in the oven in no time no matter what age a woman is. clueless much?
last night we had an interesting exchange of texts about who we would want for our maid of honor and best man, he mentioned how him and his bestfriend have already agreed they would be eachothers best man so its been talked about..
who knew guys talked about stuff like that? it was nice to see he does consider things like that.
today the mailman dropped off a wedding planner i got for signing up at a vendors site and i was so excited when i opened the package to see it there, it took me an hour to organize it, ive written in my family, possible guest lists, included pics of me and Fiance, and i came up with a budget.
ive estimated that with the wedding i have in mind it will total about 20grand, i went over the numbers and realize to marry in 2014 we will have to save a certain amount per month to reach that goal. instead of outright asking him to save such money for a specific purpose, i told him we should open a savings account together and he thought it was a good idea.
but now im starting to wonder if i shouldve outright told him why i want to open it? aside from wedding savings we are also saving to buy 10acres of land, so its not entirely the wedding im considering here. should i have told him my intentions there?
i feel like lately i have to be subtle about how i bring up commitment with him to not have him feel pressure. i know hes paying the ring off and we even agreed on an estimated wedding date so why cant i shut my yap about it?