Post # 1
Realizing a lot of people don’t like or eat fruitcake…. it’s a cultural thing to have a traditional ‘wedding cake’ – which happens to be this intense fruitcake (for lack of a better description). It’s fairly time consuming to make… and then on top of that, it’s wrapped individually and then either wrapped again or boxed for presentation.
In the weddings of mixed cultures I’ve been to – I’ve always been sad that either a) a lot of people leave it behind or b) people are grossed out by it, since they aren’t expecting it at a wedding and it’s so different.
I’m debating whether or not to have the cake made and go through the hassle of having it done.. (We’ll have ‘real’ cake there – this is more as a tiny treat.) If I did it, I would attempt to put a little note on it (explaining that it’s a traditional wedding cake in my culture).
The question is – what would you do with something like this? Would you leave it? Would you try it (and likely think it’s gross), or???
I don’t care so much about what people think of it – as I am about wasting the cake and the time involved with the process. I’ve thought about having it only at the place-settings of those in my culture that I know would enjoy and expect it – but I don’t want to single other people out.
I could have a separate table with it on it … but it should be very nicely packaged and add to the overall table decor (which is the draw to do it at each place setting).
Post # 3
Umm, I’ve always thought fruitcake was kinda of gross. I can’t remember if I’ve ever tried it before. I would never buy it because I know I wouldn’t be able to eat the whole thing. But if it’s slices, I would at least grab one and try it. If I don’t like, I don’t like it. Is it going to be homemade? I like that you might put a note on it saying that is tradition.
Since I love dried fruit, I might like it. Plus, if it’s made well, it’s probably very good.
ETA: Also, do you like it? does your family like it? If you do, maybe at the end, you can give it to the family members who enjoy it. So it’s not a complete waste.
Would you be making it just to follow tradition and don’t really enjoy it? It’s one thing to hate fruit cake and to make it just for tradition. Then to love fruit cake and want to share an amazing recipe with your guests and have it be for tradition.
Oh, and if it is garnished and presented nicely, I’m sure people will grab it anyway.
Post # 4
I’m not familiar with this tradition, what culture does it represent? Why don’t you share a little more with us about the symbolism, etc, us bees love learning new wedding cultures!
If it is meaningful to you, absolutely include it! I think you’re afraid to work hard on something that ends up going unappreciated, but I would personally love to read a little note about the cultural significance and I would absolutely take it home with me! I think that presented in the right way (which you definitely seem to have some great ideas about), it would definitely go over well! Good luck!
Post # 5
I understand tradition, but honestly I (and alot of people I know) absolutely hate fruitcake and think it’s pretty much the grossest thing ever. Not to be rude lol. That said, I would probably just leave it on the table untouched.
Post # 6
Personally, I think it would be a waste; however, if you like fruitcake and you know a lot of your guests do too, I think it would be great for you to have a traditional cake. I don’t like the look, smell, or taste of fruitcake, so I would probably just leave it on the table or I was being watched, I would take it with me and dump it in the nearest trash can. Sorry…
Post # 7
While I am all for tradition… I don’t like fruitcake. I don’t know anyone who likes fruitcake. So… unless it’s super important to you or your family, I would skip it. OR, maybe find a place that makes truly amazing fruitcake…. I’ll try anything once, so if it was sitting on the table I would probably at least try a bite.
Post # 8
I hate fruitcake. Fiance loves it, his mom makes him a loaf every year that he slooooowly works on. Chances are we’d bring it home and throw it out after some time if Fiance didn’t eat it.
That being said, if a lot of your guests share the same cultural traditions and enjoy it then go for it!
Post # 9
Thanks for all the honest input so far! Keep the thoughts coming.
I LOVE the cake (when it’s made well). It’s something that’s only served at Christmas (because it’s so labor intensive) and for weddings (it’s basically the same cake with a layer of almond paste added to the top).
It would be homemade and is a delicacy (because of how rare it is) – but, it’s definitely an acquired taste. ie: I’ve raved about it for years and when some friends tasted it they were grossed out because they expected something other than a super rich fruitcake.
It also wouldn’t be a slice (like a slice of fruitcake) – it would ilkely be a square (2″ x 2″) and wrapped in wax paper and then put in a box of some sort.
There isn’t really any symbolism to it – other than it’s a traditional wedding cake.
It would seriously bum me out knowing a lot of it would end up in the trash – which is why I’m having second thoughts about doing it.
I would like it – but I don’t ‘need’ it (don’t tell my mother that – she’s all for having it done).
Any thoughts of how I could present it – where people would kind of know what’s in it (ie: it’s like fruitcake) and not feel compelled to take it (ie: not at each place setting)??
Post # 10
I would probably take it home with me and at least taste it, (if it looks at all appealing). What culture is this?
Post # 11
If you are having a dessert. candy, cookie, or any combination of these bars, you could present it on a fancy plate or stand with a little sign on or by whatever you set it on.
Post # 12
Is it similar to a black cake or a rum cake? We do this is the islands but its a rum cake . Our rum cake has the fruit in it but it’s puree so you aren’t biting chunks of fruit. But we have the same wax paper and boxes to put them in to take home
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I’m a big fan of fruitcake, or any cake for that matter, so I would nomsky the hecksy out of it.
Post # 14
I think it’s in the name ‘fruitcake’ that gives it the negative connotation.
What i’m confused about is… is it fruitcake or fruitcake like. I don’t know if there is a difference but might be something you want to do. Name it for what it is. Say that it’s fruit cake like. Or maybe omit the ‘fruitcake’ part.
Or in order to get away from the “Ewww, it’s fruit cake.” Put a little note that says, Please try our ‘wedding cake’ from [insert culture here]. Put the ingredients on there too. People who hate fruit cake just to hate fruitcake proably don’t know what’s in fruit cake. I know I didn’t. But then I found out it’s a spice cake with dried fruits and nuts. It didn’t sound that bad. Uhh, carrot cake is spiced cake with carrots and nuts.
Put the ingredients on your note and people will look at it. If it looks good, they may take it. If it doesn’t, they won’t.
Post # 15
Can I come to your wedding? You won’t have any leftover fruitcake.
Post # 16
I don’t like fruitcake and don’t know anyone who does. I second what yrret107 said about not calling it fruitcake. If you call it by a different/traditional name and explain the significance, I think people would be more likely to try it.