Post # 1
We just mailed an invitiation to a guy that my fiance works with. We had him on the guest list when we first created it but in between then and now, him and his gf found out they were pregnant and she recently had their baby.
He text my fiance today to let him know he got the invitation and he wanted to know if his baby could come to the wedding. By the time the wedding is here, the baby will be about 4 months old. We aren’t sure what to say to him, because although there will be a few kids at the wedding, we don’t know how a new baby will be during the ceremony and reception? We know as a new mother she won’t leave her 4 month old baby with a sitter and we don’t expect them to do that either, but, we don’t know how a new born baby will be around this type of surrounding (ie: loud music, drinking, etc).
Did you have any infant babies at your wedding? How were they during the ceremony and then at the reception?
If you have any sound advice that would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
We had 7 infants (all under the age of 7 months) at our wedding. They did pretty well. There was a little crying during the ceremony, but I’m not going to lie that the only reason I knew this was from our video. I didn’t even notice it the day of. Most of them fell asleep during the reception and when they were up did pretty well. I knew that if I didn’t let them bring the baby, most of the parent’s wouldn’t be coming. It was really important to me to have them there, so the babies could come.
Post # 4
Does your venue have any rooms that you could possibly hire a babysitter to watch really young children?
Post # 5
My bridesman and his wife had their second child a few months before my wedding. If it weren’t for the (painfully adorable) pictures of him, I would not have even realized that he was there. Every baby is different – you just have to count on the parents being aware enough to determine whether their child is capable of handling a wedding.
Post # 6
i will have a few at the wedding. i don’t mind at all because they are my close friends’ babies and the alternative is not having them at my wedding. i realize this person is not a real close friend but i think it’s your wedding and you get to decide whether you want babies at your wedding. like others said, some babies are quiet and others are not.
Post # 7
One of my bridesmaids is married to one of our groomsmen. They have a 5 month old daughter who will be our little honorary flower girl. Also, my cousin has a newborn who will be under 3 months at the time of the wedding. I think it’s okay, usually at those ages they mostly just sleep. Provided the parents are willing to take the child out if it has a huge screaming fit during the ceremony (not even likely) then it’s okay.
Post # 8
Yeah I’m not a parent myself and havent been around a new born baby or even an infant for a long time so I wouldn’t know how they are, especially during and event like that. I also know that she most likely won’t attend if the baby can’t come.
I also have another concern – how will the babies ears take to the loud bassey music? Won’t it hurt the babies ears?
Post # 9
We had two babies. I just sat them at the table closest to the exit in case they started crying but like another poster said besides some pictures I would never have even noticed they were there.
Post # 10
@HisBrideinJune2012: It might, but I don’t think that’s your problem.
We had a very small baby at our reception (we didn’t invite any other kids) and I didn’t hear a peep out of her. I wasn’t worried about that at all, however…to be honest. I will say that my friend and her husband didn’t stay very long and did complain about how loud the music/atmosphere was. It didn’t bother me because I warned them about that when we talked about the logistics of bringing the baby. It was a cocktail reception (they complained that it started too late) and had an open bar.
Just let them know what they are in for ahead of time. Truthfully, a baby that small may not be able to be left with a babysitter (especially if mom is breast feeding). Give them all the info and let them decide. I was clear that I wasn’t making any changes to my plans in order to accommodate kids of any ages…I made sure that there was a place for my friend to breast feed in private, however.
Post # 11
we will potentially have 3 newborns at our wedding, all mums give birth within 3 weeks of each other.. 6 weeks before our wedding, we have said no kids, but have explained on our invites that there may be 3 nursing mothers there.
One will probably not even come, but the other 2.. one being my best friend and the other my H2B’s cousin, they have both said they want to sit at the back and if the baby cries they will hot foot it out of the room with them, their decision..
There is a bridal suite with a room attached, and I have told them that they can use it if needs be, so that they can get some privacy or peace and quiet, myself and H2B are the only ones staying over at the venue as there is only this room, and everyone else will be in nearby hotels 🙂 am happy for them to use it
Post # 12
If I had to have kids at my wedding, I’d far rather they were newborns. Older kids can run around, can’t sit still, can get in the way and be noisy. I’ve been around loads of newborns recently and I always get frustrated by them because I want to play with them but they just sleep, and sleep and sleep.
Seriously. I went for a meal with a colleague a few weeks ago and she brought her 1 month old. We were there for at least 3 hours and he just sat in his chair and slept.
They might wake up and need a feed but i’d be surprised if you noticed the kid was there!
Post # 13
@ArwenBride: Yeah thats true, but that was my concern as well. Its going to be a celebration with loud music and open bar and lots of dancing. We will just inform them of this and let them decide.
I will have my fiance let them know tonight that they are welcome to bring their baby.
Thanks everyone 🙂
Post # 14
My fiance and I were invited to a wedding two months after my son was born I was not going to go but the bride insisted I come with my son. I went and sat in the back in case he cried and he did not and my son ate during the cocktail our and slept during the reception. She put us at the a table furthest from the DJ and he was not even bothered.