(Closed) Influence over your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

FMIL and my mom, definitely. Moreso over the picnic than the wedding (sincei it’s FMIL’s picnic, so obviously she gets to have that influence!!) But they’ve both provided lots of input and influence on my accessories, dress, and even the venue choice. Some of their opinions have been integrated, and for other things, I decided to do my own thing.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

Um… my mom/his mom were really uninvolved.  I think the hive had a lot of decision making power!  haha…that’s so sad. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

let’s see… my mum and sisters.. yes all 3 sisters.. who needs bms when you have them chiming in!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

i agree with mrs. crabcake, the hive and blogosphere have influenced parts of my wedding decisions. everyone is just so creative and come up with such good ideas 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It was horrible, horrible, horrible. Nearly all of our guest list couldn’t stop complaining and making demands (yes, demands!). So we’re eloping and we have complete and total control. Ahh… it’s great!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I wouldn’t say that anyone besides myself and my fiance has an influence over our wedding. I certrainly take advice from my MOH, my aunt, FMIL and StepFMIL but they don’t necessarily have any influence. We still do what we want because it’s our wedding and we’re paying for it.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am with Amandab – I ask peoples decisions but really it is just up to us!

I hear horror stories on the boards about parental involvement and it makes me count my lucky stars for such supportive family and future in-laws!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m with amandab. It is mine and my FI’s wedding, we have the final say on what goes and what doesn’t.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my mom has some influence, but i always have the last say. i’m normally very easy going, but it’s my only wedding so it’s going to be my way.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2001

I get most of my inspiration online! Try to seek out help from my sisters and other bm’s, and that helps, but in the end, I know I have a mind of my own…

Mom helps more than I thought she would… and that’s a big relief! It’s nice to have her support too. We live about an hour away now, so it’s hard, but she’s calling every other day to chat about it, and I love that!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My mom is probably more influencing than I’d like her to be, but what can I do? My parents have made a significant donation to pay for the wedding, so I feel like some things, I really don’t have any choice but go along with her ideas. 

The most frustrating-by far–is who we chose for our caterer.  It just happens to be the hotel that she works for.  And thus she is getting a good deal on the food.  But we never even got to have a tasting!  Because she’s afraid that, since we are getting such a good deal, it would be asking too much.  Hopefully we like the food!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I am open to advice, but my FI and I make the decisions since we are paying for the wedding ourselves. Even if you are not try to remind your parents that it is your wedding in the nicest way possible. A friend of mine had only three friends at her wedding, because the invite list was made by her mother and it was all family(third cousins, great aunt…) and her parents friends(they paid) on the list.  It was a shame because that was her day, and she couldn’t celebrate with her friends.

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