Post # 1
Ok well, My FI just had his first day at his new job yesterday. Everything went pretty splendid. Anywho, so this week will all be about training and the like, stuff about benefits and hr and what not. Well FI proposed an option to me last night that I’m a little unsure about. He told me that his employer will help supply him with a ‘Declaration of Informal Marraige’. And that he thinks it would be a great option, since I do not have health insurance, and they have wonderful plans, plus with all the minor health issues I do get, that I put off until I forget about them. So baiscally gives us a jump start on joint health insurance.
My concern is that from what I’ve gathered in the state of Texas, and Informal Marriage (common law) has just the same rights as a formal marriage. So my question is, I have my heart set on a date. I guess, would my informal license date be considered my anniversary, or would I be able to get a formal license in Jan 2015? I’m so confused. I know it shouldn’t matter about the date, but it kinda does.
Any help is greatly appreciated. I just want to make sure I understand everything before I make a decision.
Post # 3
@-MONSTER-: I would think that the day you say I DO in front of witnesses and sign the marriage license is your wedding date and anniversary.
Post # 4
@LilRhodyGem: See I was thinking the same thing. But I’ve been seeing so many conflicint articles, about whether or not you even need/can get another marriage certificate. The way I’ve read it anyhow is like, you can’t get remarried when you’re still married. But that we could do a vow renewal? So there fore I would assume the date we recieve our iformal marriage certificate would be the anniversary? Its all so confusing!
Post # 5
@-MONSTER-: I don’t think this ‘Declaration of informal marriage’ is a certificate… More like it’s just a signed statement from him for his job that says, “This is my live in partner”. It doesn’t have any meaning/benefits/legality other than that.
This is just paperwork for the benefits company by the sounds of things. You can still have your wedding on the day you want and THAT day is your anniversary.
Post # 6
I think you’re stuck on sematics. Just think of “informal marriage” as common law, right?
At least where I live, you become common law after X amount of time. I know you’re a bit weirded out by having to apply for a license for it, but I don’t really see it as an actual marriage. Common law and marriage are not the same thing at all. Pretend that your state does have differences between common law and marriage, and you’ll see the distinction.
If you went and got married for the purpose of getting health insurance, then yes, I would say that should be your date… but that’s not what is happening here.
Post # 7
@-MONSTER-: I live in Colorado and you are considered common law
-if you live together (doesn’t matter how long)
-you are socially recognized as husband and wife
-you both regard eachother as husband and wife
If you break up you would have to get a divorce- the same as people that went the other route with the marriage license.
My BF and her boyfriend just signed a common law affidavit for insurance purposes but they don’t wear rings and a planning a wedding for about a year from now (and I believe that will be their anniversary date).
But this is common law in Colorado- it might be different in Texas. And pot is legal here and you can also solomnize your own marriage so we’re a bit weird here. I think it’s the altitude : )
Post # 8
@canarydiamond: I see what you’re saying, I just meant in Texas it is called Informal Marriage, instead of common law.
@Penelopeee: Yes, it’s basically the same thing here
- They can file a Declaration of Informal Marriage
- They meet all of the following conditions:
- the couple agrees that they are married;
- they live together in Texas; and
- They represent themselves to other individuals that they are married to one another
@Fizzy8: Ok, thank you, that’s what I’ve been wondering about. Cause he said all we have to do is have it notarized and then he sends it in or something… But of course, he’s a guy, so he doesn’t always listen to the KEY words.. Lol or sometimes doesn’t know the best way to explain things. I’m hoping that’s all it is.
Post # 9
Who would the Declaration be filed with? Just the company or the county?
If you are ‘informally’ married in Texas you are just as married as those who have ‘ceremonial’ marriages (what people typically think of).