Informal Marriage vs Formal Marriage.

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@-MONSTER-:  I would think that the day you say I DO in front of witnesses and sign the marriage license is your wedding date and anniversary.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@-MONSTER-:  I don’t think this ‘Declaration of informal marriage’ is a certificate… More like it’s just a signed statement from him for his job that says, “This is my live in partner”. It doesn’t have any meaning/benefits/legality other than that.

This is just paperwork for the benefits company by the sounds of things. You can still have your wedding on the day you want and THAT day is your anniversary.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think you’re stuck on sematics. Just think of “informal marriage” as common law, right?

At least where I live, you become common law after X amount of time. I know you’re a bit weirded out by having to apply for a license for it, but I don’t really see it as an actual marriage. Common law and marriage are not the same thing at all. Pretend that your state does have differences between common law and marriage, and you’ll see the distinction.

If you went and got married for the purpose of getting health insurance, then yes, I would say that should be your date… but that’s not what is happening here.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@-MONSTER-:  I live in Colorado and you are considered common law

-if you live together (doesn’t matter how long)

-you are socially recognized as husband and wife

-you both regard eachother as husband and wife

If you break up you would have to get a divorce- the same as people that went the other route with the marriage license.

My BF and her boyfriend just signed a common law affidavit for insurance purposes but they don’t wear rings and a planning a wedding for about a year from now (and I believe that will be their anniversary date).

But this is common law in Colorado- it might be different in Texas. And pot is legal here and you can also solomnize your own marriage so we’re a bit weird here.  I think it’s the altitude : )

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Who would the Declaration be filed with? Just the company or the county? 

If you are ‘informally’ married in Texas you are just as married as those who have ‘ceremonial’ marriages (what people typically think of). 

 

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