Post # 1
I’ve heard a lot people say that others reacted negatively to their ring when they were engaged, no matter if it was a gemstone, a diamond, cz, a mossy etc.
I thought for fun everyone could share people’s reaction to their e-rings, the good, bad, and the ugly.
I’ll start. When I first showed up to my old job with my e-ring I didn’t show it off or annouce I was engaged. I wasn’t really close to anyone there, and I didn’t want to seem like a show off. All around doing that would have been awkward.
So instead someone noticed the diamond while I was typing something at my cubicle and exclaimed that it was “so big” I turned bright red and within a matter of minutes my cubicle was being ambushed by women. It was even more awkward than I had imagined. But no one bothered me about it again after that.
One coworker was on her delayed honeymoon and when she got back, she asked to see “the rock” that people were talking about. A while later I asked her if she had insured her ring and I mentioned how I was going to get mine insured because it was probably worth enough that I couldn’t replace it easily and then she went on a rant about how she wanted a solitaire but her husband insisted on a three stone ring and she was upset about it because they were so more expensive than solitaires. I never talked to her about it again.
On a day to day basis no one really says anything about it and that makes me happy. My ring is for me to enjoy not anyone else!
Post # 3
Mine is not a typical ering, so I don’t think anyone really knew/knows that it is one.
Post # 4
Mm. My staff was not surprised, they work with both of us and knew it was in the works.
Tey were a little surprised at the size but aside from a few it’s huge comments, it wasn’t a big deal.
My clients were another story. Some of them squealed, a couple cried, a few were nasty, mostly everyone said it was gorgeous and unique.
One nasty comment was “I had no idea you made THAT much money!!”
One great comment was “I hope I’m the first to see it, I dreamed that he proposed ths weekend!!!”
Post # 5
The majority were negative. The obligatory “can we see it” soon followed by deathly silence. You’d think I had crapped in my own hand and showed it to them. Then I’d change the subject. There were a couple strangers that had really lovely things to say and my mom loved it. But everyone else has been really negative. I think it might be because it’s a yellow stone – at least that’s my theory. It’s not white, it’s not round, it’s not small, it’s not a solitaire setting, and my wb doesn’t match my ering AND I wear them on separate hands. I think it’s just too much “difference” for them to handle.
Post # 6
The reaction to my ring was overwhelmingly good but people definitely made comments about its size, which did make me feel a little uncomfortable. I have a ‘friend’ who is very judgey about this kind of thing and I know she looks down at my .75 as being too small and that it’s a ‘good thing’ I got a halo around it so it looks bigger! In reality, my halo and my center stone were both heirloom diamonds from my husband’s grandmother, without those I probably wouldn’t have a stone ring at all and I chose the halo because it made sense with the size of diamonds I had to use and I don’t think solitaires look good on my finger. It had nothing to do with size – although I do enjoy the finger coverage – and I would rather hide my hand when I’m around this ‘friend’ than deal with her sideways glances and comments.
Post # 7
People have always said great things about mine. Never have I gotten a negative comment. They always love how sparkly it is with the half eternity band. It is simple but oh so pretty! lol
If people have thought nasty things about it, they have never said them outloud. Which I am okay with.
Post # 8
I only recieved positive responses. I got a lot of “Oh, it’s a crowd pleaser” and “how classics”. Several girls have told me how “they hate a lot of rings but they actually like” mine…which is kinda weird. Most people just say how “me” it is – very classic with something special (it’s a really thin, prong-set diamond band with a resonably sized center stone).
Post # 9
Most reactions I get are focused on the larger size so I have recieved my fair share of compliments along with the passive aggressive comments as well. However, the majority of comments and reactions are positive.
Post # 10
I’m the only person I know with a solitaire, so I got a lot of “pretty” or “oh, simple” which is whatever. I don’t really care because my ring suits me so well, and because my diamond is super high quality and I love taking pride in that.
Post # 11
Most people have told me, “It’s really pretty [smile]” in a sort of flat tone. Whatever! I love mine!!
Post # 12
I have a friend who asks to see my ring and shows it to anyone around each time we see each other b/c she loves it so much and I’ve been engaged since late 2010! So that always makes me feel good even though it’s a little awkward but it just means she admires it a lot. 🙂
Post # 13
“That’s a BIG rock!” Its an 8mm white topaz. I don’t think its *that* big! (Had to include a pic… what can I say, it’s new! Lol)
Post # 14
I have had nothing but positive comments. If they did have negative thoughts, they didn’t say them. Thank God! Lol. I love my ring and that’s all that matters!
Post # 15
I only had one “weird” comment. My Grandmother said, “oh, that’s cute” and nothing more. I didn’t get what she meant by that and was left a little confused as her diamond is about the same size as mine. Besides that, everyone else has been really sweet. My FI chose the ring by himself and to me, it’s perfect!
For reference, here’s my ring:
Post # 16
@claireos: I worry slightly about this… not engaged yet but my SO knows I prefer rings that are not solitares, not white, etc… and I am pretty sure he chose either iolite or black diamond. So we’ll see what happens I guess! I won’t like it any less if others don’t, but it’s still nice when people have nice reactions.
I know my friends will like it, at least, even if family/co-workers are too traditional haha.