Post # 1
Hey y’all! So my wedding is in 10 days and a few days ago I had a terrible freak accident.my brother took me horse back riding for my 28th birthday… This was supposed to be a leisurely ride throulad open land. our guide took off galloping with his horse, and mine followEd suit. My feet came out the stirrups and i tried to hold on for dear life, but got thrown off the horse.
Fastforward 24 hours at the the hospital.i have a compressed fractured L2 and L3 vertebrae. I am in a full back brace that I must wear for 3-4 months. I’m on a plethora of meds,and really don’t feel like myself.
the doc said that I could possible take the brace off for the wedding,but no dancing that at involves twisting or bouncing. Or wear the brace over my dress. I’m dying as i have a very expensive gown!!!!
Im in such a dilemma of what to do!? I have family and friends flying In from all over the US, Italy and South America. Please help me decide. What would you do??
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you are in so much pain. I would scale back the dancing portion of the night, but still walk down the aisle and make it the most amazing day you can. It will make for some great stories later.
If you feel you would be missing out on your dream wedding, plan for a vow renewal in 5 years, where you can have the party that you’ve always dreamed of and get the opportunity to wear the gorgeous and expensive gown again!
Congratulations and hope you have an amazing day!
Post # 4
@kpomms: i’m sorry to hear of your accident.
if you have guests from abroad, they probably already have their flights, hotel rooms, etc. perhaps you can still get married but have the celebration not as active.
i would definitely postpone the honeymoon until you are better.
Post # 5
take it off for the wedding but thats the most u can do… what does ur dress look like?
Post # 6
Personally, I would push the wedding back if possible. It depends on what you & FI think is best. I am very sensitive to pain medications so I know I woudn’t be able to function and be there emotionally on that day if I was drugged up & in pain.
Post # 7
Just go with it – it’s a big bummer but everything will work out fine
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
I am so sorry that this happened! Until I read that you have family flying in I thought you should postpone… but I think that would be terrible inconvenient for them so while I don’t want to say “suck it up” I think staying the course may be your best bet 🙁
Post # 9
Goodness – thats awful!!!
I would keep the wedding date the same. Take off the brace for the ceremony and pictures and then as soon as you start hurting – put the brace back on!!! Back injuries are nothing to mess with.
I agree with PPs –
@metalbride: If you feel you would be missing out on your dream wedding, plan for a vow renewal in 5 years, where you can have the party that you’ve always dreamed of and get the opportunity to wear the gorgeous and expensive gown again!
@mypinkshoes: i would definitely postpone the honeymoon until you are better.
Post # 10
I would definitely NOT postpone the wedding under these circumstances – an accident like that is a reminder of how fragile and fleeting life can be. You should make the most of the opportunity to celebrate an important milestone with family traveling all over the world to be with you. People will understand about the brace and about you not being able to dance, etc. But isn’t being married to your FI more important than showing off the dress? For sure, plan on having a big party down the road if you want to have a chance to wear it and dance like crazy, etc. once you heal up from the accident, but don’t postpone the wedding and lose the opportunity to celebrate with people who are crossing the ocean to be there with you on that day.
Post # 11
Awee, I’m so sorry! I would still keep the wedding day, but maybe plan an extra special mini reception for when you’re better. I’m sure the doctors can give you a few steroid shots for the pain that day. You just won’t dance, no biggie. You can still slow dance and be wrapped up in your lover’s arms! You’ve looked forward to this day for so long. Keep it <3
Having said that.. no one would blame you for changing the date!! I certainly would think no less of you 🙂
I also agree with @KCKnd2: Appreciate that you have this day to celebrate your love. Sometimes people don’t even get that chance. What if your accident had been worse? You have so many reasons to celebrate!!
Best wishes!!! <3
Post # 12
Yikes what a huge freaking bummer that is! Sorry about your accident and I wish you a speedy recovery!
I would go ahead with your wedding as planned and do as much as the Dr says and you feel up to. You can take the brace off and still show off your gown and have gorgeous pictures. Does it suck? Yes but no more than having family/friends lose money on flights/hotels etc and you and your FI losing deposits etc. You still have a little over a week so I would rest up as much as you can before then and enjoy your day, you are still getting married to the love of your life, something like a back brace shouldn’t stop you!
Post # 13
I can’t believe the guide did something so reckless! Something similar happened to my mom as achild (sans wedding) and she refuses to ever get on a horse again. 🙁
Post # 14
I’d ditch the brace for the ceremony and your grand entrance to the reception and a nice & easy, gently first dance. Then, maybe take the mic and make a small announcement about how you’re so glad everyone could make it, explain what happened, then go put the brace back on over your dress. You’ll have all the lovely photos without it, and I’m certain your guests will understand. Hey, maybe in 5 years when you look back at some guest photos of your wedding you’ll be able to laugh it off. And you’ll still have the nice, professional photos without the hideous brace.
Post # 15
@kpomms: I am SO sorry your are going through this. Given the extent of your guests travel I would say to carry on with the wedding the best you can without the brace for as long as your body will allow. Good luck and I hope you heal fast!
Post # 16
Do not wear heels…whatever you do. I’m sorry this happened to you, I hope you have a fast fast recovery.