Post # 1
Hi ladies! So i’m currently 23W 5D with baby girl #2, this will be DH’s first biological child, as my ODD is from a previous relationship, but DH is still “daddy”… As I’m sure we can tell by my screen name, her name is Emersyn Renee. She is 5. Anywho, DH and I argued and argued over names forever, even before we got pregnant. We mainly only argued over boys names & finally agreed on one Boy name… we never even really thought about girls names, until one day I was like do you think our name will go for a girl too? **I’m very into uncommon/unique names, as well as masculine names for girls** and he said he LOVED it for a girl! So at that point (I think I was like 7-8wks) we decided that our baby would have that name boy or girl.
Her name will be Thayer James (James is a requirement I had as a middle name for girl or boy)
FF to us sharing with his parents our baby name….. they HATE it! Every time they talk to him about the baby they throw out “why dont you name the baby XXXX” and his mom called me about me making my shower invites the other day & said I guess if you want to put THAT NAME on there, go ahead?! Now I understand that some people’s names aren’t for everyone, but dont be rude about it!
She has made a list of girls names for us (even though I think she wants us to have a boy, she kept saying “are we sure its not a lil guy?” Here are her wonderful names for us! Knowing we want unique:
How are any of these unique?! Anyone else’s inlaws try this?!
Post # 3
@emersynsmommy35: That’s annoying. I’d just be a good sport about listening to their names, because ultimately you and DH have the final say.
Post # 4
“We’ll take that into consideration, thanks”
This is why we REFUSED to share names with anyone. Toward the end I was worn down and tired of fending off questions, so I told the in-laws that we had a short list from which to choose but had not made our final decision. I did share some of the list and then spent the next month regretting it. They didn’t hate our names though, since we went with more traditional names (but not in the top 100 since the 1940s).
Post # 5
@MissMay3003: Oh I dont have to talk to her, so I dont say much at all! LoL I think it’s hurting hubs feelings because his twin brother had a lil girl last Nov, and they chose to name her his wife’s maiden name of Jordan with middle name Shay… which to me is very unisex as well!
Now I know James is MUCH less unisex but still!
Post # 6
@emersynsmommy35: Tell her the name non negotiable. She had the chance to name her children whatever she wanted. This is you and DH’s choice not hers. Or maybe have your DH tell her that 🙂
Post # 7
This is why we wait until the christening to reveal the name.
SIL has very passive agressively suggested to DD1 that we should name DD2 SILs name and my mum keeps suggesting her own name, but they know that we’ll choose a name regardless of their suggestions.
Post # 8
I’m not pregnant but it sounds like something my mother will try to pull when the time comes. So annoying. I would just say thanks for the suggestions and stick with your decision.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@emersynsmommy35: And this is why we aren’t sharing our chosen names until the baby is born. Everyone has a critique and until the baby is born and the name is on the birth certificate, they think they can change your mind. Family and friends will find out our baby’s name the day they are born and not before.
When they bring it up say that’s nice but we already chose a name and change the subject. If they persist, tell them you understand where they are coming from but it’s ultiamtely your decision as a couple and you both love the name you have picked out. I would even go so far as to refer to the baby as Thayer from now on so they get used to it. Oh, and encourage someone to get you a personalize gift with the baby’s name on it so it’s “in stone” so to speak.
Post # 10
@beachbride1216: Her wall will have it on there & I made sure it was HUGE on her shower invite! LoL And yes I am 5 and did it out of spite just to annoy her with it! I mean I wasn’t huge on SIL naming her daughter Jordan Shay, But I have NEVER once said a word to them about it & love her just as much! My inlaws are a special breed & I honestly think they’ll act different if they dont like something about her, such as her name! (If it keeps them away I’m ok with that then! LoL)
See I would wait to share the name, but I have the biggest impulse problems & lack of patience! LoL I had to have a name the minute I found out I was pregnant & I love putting it on things & she will have SO Much that has her name on it! LoL My daughter LOVES her sisters name & wont call her baby or anything but Thayer!
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Oh, they can suggest all they want. But my in-laws will have no say in the naming of our children. Or my parents for that matter. This is between my husband and me. No one else gets say.
Post # 12
This is why I will never share our names until it’s on the birth certificate. My mom is probably equally as opinionated as your in-laws, and she has pretty much no filter with me. I know it drives her crazy that we won’t even hint at possible names we would consider, haha. We like somewhat unique but easy to say/spell names, and so far we’ve had the suggestions of Jordan and Jamie, even though we’re not even TTC lol.
Post # 13
@emersynsmommy35: Your child’s name is none of their business. I would probably say that too, but I’m blunt like that.
Post # 14
We are refusing to share our baby’s name with anyone for this reason. I don’t want anyone suggesting names they like more. It’s between you and your husband. They have no say. Just say, ‘Thanks. I’ll take those into consideration” and that’s it.
Post # 15
I am not a parent yet but I feel that I can say this:
This is YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND’S CHILD. Not theirs. I wouldnt budge and I would simply lay down the law and thank them for their input but that you will be choosing her name yourselves.
Post # 16
I told DH that if I hear it from them next time I see them I’m gonna flip, I am usually pretty backhandedly rude to my family members that dont like it. My uncle & his gf didnt like it, and said you can’t pronounce it, it sounds like “Fair or There” I just told them it is said exactly like its spelled and their lack on Phonetic awareness is NOT my problem! I will not name my kid BOB just so it’s “Easy” for them to say!” LoL
I told him his parents push me I’m gonna tell them if they want to name something they can go buy a f*cking dog & name it, because that is the only way anything is getting the name Margaret! They got to name their boys… Nick & Nate (which would have been Nicole & Natalie) so if I wanna name my kid Alizakahbanzity I will! (BTW I have no ideas what <– that name would be! LoL)