Inlaws suggesting names?!

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@emersynsmommy35:  That’s annoying.  I’d just be a good sport about listening to their names, because ultimately you and DH have the final say.

Post # 4
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

“We’ll take that into consideration, thanks”

This is why we REFUSED to share names with anyone.  Toward the end I was worn down and tired of fending off questions, so I told the in-laws that we had a short list from which to choose but had not made our final decision.  I did share some of the list and then spent the next month regretting it.  They didn’t hate our names though, since we went with more traditional names (but not in the top 100 since the 1940s).

Post # 6
4296 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@emersynsmommy35:  Tell her the name non negotiable. She had the chance to name her children whatever she wanted. This is you and DH’s choice not hers. Or maybe have your DH tell her that 🙂

Post # 7
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is why we wait until the christening to reveal the name.

SIL has very passive agressively suggested to DD1 that we should name DD2 SILs name and my mum keeps suggesting her own name, but they know that we’ll choose a name regardless of their suggestions.

Post # 8
4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not pregnant but it sounds like something my mother will try to pull when the time comes. So annoying. I would just say thanks for the suggestions and stick with your decision.

Post # 9
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@emersynsmommy35:  And this is why we aren’t sharing our chosen names until the baby is born.  Everyone has a critique and until the baby is born and the name is on the birth certificate, they think they can change your mind.  Family and friends will find out our baby’s name the day they are born and not before.

When they bring it up say that’s nice but we already chose a name and change the subject.  If they persist, tell them you understand where they are coming from but it’s ultiamtely your decision as a couple and you both love the name you have picked out.  I would even go so far as to refer to the baby as Thayer from now on so they get used to it.  Oh, and encourage someone to get you a personalize gift with the baby’s name on it so it’s “in stone” so to speak.

Post # 11
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Oh, they can suggest all they want.  But my in-laws will have no say in the naming of our children.  Or my parents for that matter.  This is between my husband and me.  No one else gets say.

Post # 12
6963 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This is why I will never share our names until it’s on the birth certificate. My mom is probably equally as opinionated as your in-laws, and she has pretty much no filter with me. I know it drives her crazy that we won’t even hint at possible names we would consider, haha. We like somewhat unique but easy to say/spell names, and so far we’ve had the suggestions of Jordan and Jamie, even though we’re not even TTC lol.

Post # 13
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@emersynsmommy35:  Your child’s name is none of their business.  I would probably say that too, but I’m blunt like that.

Post # 14
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are refusing to share our baby’s name with anyone for this reason. I don’t want anyone suggesting names they like more. It’s between you and your husband. They have no say. Just say, ‘Thanks. I’ll take those into consideration” and that’s it.

Post # 15
91 posts
Worker bee

I am not a parent yet but I feel that I can say this:

This is YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND’S CHILD. Not theirs.  I wouldnt budge and I would simply lay down the law and thank them for their input but that you will be choosing her name yourselves. 

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