- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
So I’m going to try to keep this short. My fiance’s mother passed when he was young, he has a “stepmom” who he will not refer to as stepmom. She’s been around for 15 years but never really played the Mom role. His dad does what she says and is in my eye a big pansy. They don’t believe in weddings, say its a waste of money, I come from an Italian background who believe the complete opposite. So they’ve not offered to help, which is fine, my Mom has already started planning my shower and was just about to order the invitations WHEN suddenly the inlaws want to go discuss it and offer help. This was 3 weeks ago, my parents put their plans on hold and cancelled plans to free up a Saturday for them. The shower meet was to be this weekend, so I mentioned to call his Dad and ask the plan for Saturday, well his Dad says, “oh, we’re not coming anymore” no reason as to why just aren’t. I am livid. My mom is going to be so upset as she was fine with going ahead and doing it all herself. My fiance understands why I’m mad and agrees but says he doesn’t have the kind of relationship with his Dad that he can call and speak up about these types of things.
This is only one minor incident of things that have happened and of what I’m sure is to come over the next several months. They seem to think we can plan things the month before. We’ve yet to get a finalized guest list from them, been asking since March! Its mostly the “stepmom” causing this I’m sure, as his side of the family, cousins etc are european and super excited about all of it.
Not sure what to do without causing a big fight. For the most part our visits with the inlaws are ok, they are odd with some beliefs and their ways, not big family people…again because of HER.
Sorry, I see it didn’t turn out to be so short :/