Post # 1
We are only 23 days out from the wedding and I possibly have no DJ.
FI’s brother surprised us by booking and paying a DJ for our wedding. It is the same DJ that he had for his birthday party in January. It was really nice of him and we didn’t think anything else of it. I needed the DJ’s number and email address so I can start going over song choices and I also wanted to see if he had a contract that I needed to sign since it was our wedding.
This was the e-mail I received just a few minutes ago:
I honestly don’t even know how to respond. I knew that he wasn’t a “professional” (he is a school teacher that does their school dances, weddings, birthday parties etc as a hobby). However, that doesn’t mean you can’t have a simple contract stating you will show up and do what you were paid for. I knew I should have contacted him sooner, but he did such a good job at FI’s brothers birthday party and everyone has had nothing but good things to say about him.
That e-mail really rubbed me the wrong way. I texted my FBIL and he said he will call him this evening and “take care of it” but ahhh talk about stressful.
Post # 2
BakerBee16: Oh mannn, I don’t like this one bit 🙁
We met with a photographer who seemed great and said, “We don’t need a contract.” I said, “You may not, but I do!” Needless to say, he didn’t get the job.
You can get a “contract” from Staples. This guy sounds nuts!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I think he was just very short and to the point, but I don’t think he intended to be rude. He just didn’t include any fluff in his email.
But I’d be uneasy about not having a professional and no contract.
Post # 4
i don’t actually see it as rude – it’s not overly professional, but i don’t think it’s rude. he’s super clear – he’s not a professional, and if you want a contract you should look elsewhere. i wouldn’t be comfortable with that, but at 75/hr some corners get cut.
i would simply respond and nicely let him know that you’re not looking for a complex legal document, you just want confirmation of his arrival and departure times, rate, and equipment he will be bringing listed in an email (or whatever makes you comfortable).
i’m sure he can handle that!
Post # 5
What part was rude?
I think he was just stating that he is not a professional so if you would like a contract then hire a professional. Plain and simple.
Post # 6
I agree with the last two ladies. He didn’t anwer in a very professional way, but he’s just stating the facts and gets straight to the point.
If you know he can be a great DJ that is the important part!! 🙂 Sounds like you are getting a great deal. If you can’t get an official contract hopefully you can get a written response with all of the details that are important to you, and then hold him accountable to them. Good luck!
Post # 7
BakerBee16: I don’t think it as rude, much less insanely rude. He is obviously not a professional DJ, although as a “professional” teacher, he should understand the need for a contract.
I suggest you simply draft a very basic contract, sign it and send it to him for his input.
Post # 8
I agree, he probably (hopefully) didn’t intend it to come across as abrupt as it did. It’s hard because through email, we lose the tone and it can be misinterpreted.
I would just politely respond that you were just wanting to cover all your bases. Just let him know that you are interested in drawing up a simple contract so that you are both in agreement with the price, timing, and expectations.
Post # 9
BakerBee16: That email isn’t rude, it’s just straightforward. He doesn’t do this professionally, so he doesn’t have a contract written up.
You can tell him that you’d feel more comfortable having one, draft it yourself, and ask him to sign it. Or, as PPs have said, just go over the necessary details in an email.
Honestly thought, for $75/hour, I don’t think a signed contract is really going to offer you much protection. What are you going to do, take him to small claims court over $375? Sue him for damages if he doesn’t show up?
Post # 10
I don’t believe his email is rude at all. If you’re comfortable moving forward without a contract then keep him, if not, hire someone else.
Post # 11
I agree that he wasn’t intending to be rude; he was probably just trying to get the information to you in as few words as possible, which can always seem rude through text and email.
If you’re uncomfortable without a contract, get another DJ, like he says. No harm done.
Post # 12
I straight-up think it’s rude and unprofessional. I’d start looking for a new DJ.
Post # 13
BakerBee16: That’s insanely rude? A tad short, maybe – but since you farn tell tone in a text, I’d give him the benefit do the doubt.
Post # 14
A contract can be as simple as agreeing via email as to what will happen. I think he’s being kind of a snot, not sure what for though.
Post # 15
Not sure about insanely rude, but I do find it amusing that in one sentence he says, “I’m not a professional,” and then in another, “I charge $75/hr.”
Get your story straight dude. I get that it’s not his full-time job, but if he is charging someone for his services, that makes him a professional. (Unless of course he is trying to maintain his amateur status for the Olympics?)
Our wedding photographer was a full-time schoolteacher, and he prepared a contract for us. It’s not an unreasonable expectation for you to have, but it also just seems like this was nothing more than a miscommunication and/or issue of poorly interpreted tone over e-mail/text. Hopefully you can get something cursory written up that makes you comfortable, I know it’s stressful in the weeks before your wedding.