Insanely rude e-mail from DJ. Not sure what to do now!

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

BakerBee16:  Oh mannn, I don’t like this one bit 🙁  

We met with a photographer who seemed great and said, “We don’t need a contract.”  I said, “You may not, but I do!”  Needless to say, he didn’t get the job.  

You can get a “contract” from Staples.  This guy sounds nuts!!    

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I think he was just very short and to the point, but I don’t think he intended to be rude.  He just didn’t include any fluff in his email.

But I’d be uneasy about not having a professional and no contract.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i don’t actually see it as rude – it’s not overly professional, but i don’t think it’s rude. he’s super clear – he’s not a professional, and if you want a contract you should look elsewhere. i wouldn’t be comfortable with that, but at 75/hr some corners get cut. 

i would simply respond and nicely let him know that you’re not looking for a complex legal document, you just want confirmation of his arrival and departure times, rate, and equipment he will be bringing listed in an email (or whatever makes you comfortable). 

i’m sure he can handle that!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What part was rude?

I think he was just stating that he is not a professional so if you would like a contract then hire a professional. Plain and simple.

LMD:  +1

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I agree with the last two ladies.  He didn’t anwer in a very professional way, but he’s just stating the facts and gets straight to the point.  

If you know he can be a great DJ that is the important part!! 🙂 Sounds like you are getting a great deal.  If you can’t get an official contract hopefully you can get a written response with all of the details that are important to you, and then hold him accountable to them.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

BakerBee16:  I don’t think it as rude, much less insanely rude. He is obviously not  a professional DJ, although as a “professional” teacher, he should understand the need for a contract.

I suggest you simply draft a very basic contract, sign it and send it to him for his input.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I agree, he probably (hopefully) didn’t intend it to come across as abrupt as it did. It’s hard because through email, we lose the tone and it can be misinterpreted. 

I would just politely respond that you were just wanting to cover all your bases. Just let him know that you are interested in drawing up a simple contract so that you are both in agreement with the price, timing, and expectations. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

BakerBee16:  That email isn’t rude, it’s just straightforward. He doesn’t do this professionally, so he doesn’t have a contract written up. 

You can tell him that you’d feel more comfortable having one, draft it yourself, and ask him to sign it. Or, as PPs have said, just go over the necessary details in an email.

Honestly thought, for $75/hour, I don’t think a signed contract is really going to offer you much protection. What are you going to do, take him to small claims court over $375? Sue him for damages if he doesn’t show up?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t believe his email is rude at all. If you’re comfortable moving forward without a contract then keep him, if not, hire someone else.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree that he wasn’t intending to be rude; he was probably just trying to get the information to you in as few words as possible, which can always seem rude through text and email.

If you’re uncomfortable without a contract, get another DJ, like he says. No harm done.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I straight-up think it’s rude and unprofessional. I’d start looking for a new DJ.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

BakerBee16:  That’s insanely rude? A tad short, maybe – but since you farn tell tone in a text, I’d give him the  benefit do the doubt.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

A contract can be as simple as agreeing via email as to what will happen. I think he’s being kind of a snot, not sure what for though.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not sure about insanely rude, but I do find it amusing that in one sentence he says, “I’m not a professional,” and then in another, “I charge $75/hr.”

Get your story straight dude. I get that it’s not his full-time job, but if he is charging someone for his services, that makes him a professional. (Unless of course he is trying to maintain his amateur status for the Olympics?)

Our wedding photographer was a full-time schoolteacher, and he prepared a contract for us. It’s not an unreasonable expectation for you to have, but it also just seems like this was nothing more than a miscommunication and/or issue of poorly interpreted tone over e-mail/text. Hopefully you can get something cursory written up that makes you comfortable, I know it’s stressful in the weeks before your wedding.

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