Post # 1
I hope people won’t be annoyed or bored out of their skulls at my wedding. This was triggered by talking to a friend who was complaining about a recent wedding she went to where there were only a few chairs for the ceremony, and everyone else stood. This is what we were planning on doing. 🙁 To be fair, that wedding had upwards of 150 people and ours will only have 60, which should make it a lot less weird to have people standing. And our ceremony will be no more than 5 minutes long. But now I’m worried that everyone will be annoyed.
I’m also anxious that we’re not having dancing. Neither my fiance nor I nor any of our family is into dancing. And since it’s at my mom’s home, there’s not really any space for a dance floor. We’re basically envisioning it as a cocktail party (with lots of food, though!). There will be 4-person round tables, high and low, with chairs, throughout the living/dining rooms and out on the porch if it’s nice weather, so people can get food and drinks, mingle, chat, etc. We’ll be doing an ipod playlist for music, with a mix of jazz, soul, r&b, rock, and folk.
Do you think this will suck? My thinking was that people have “regular” parties at their homes without dancing all the time. But recently when I’m mentioned that there wouldn’t be dancing to a few people I’ve gotten dubious looks.
Post # 3
This is a celebration of your love! Remember that!
Sometimes I think as brides we got so caught up in the little details and forget to focus on the main aspect. Your love for your soon to be husband.
As long as that is there, I am sure there will not be one worthy complaint!
(and if anyone does complain they suck)
I can’t wait to see a recap 🙂
Post # 4
I am also presently fearing that our wedding will be boring. I am not sure how to fix this. I’ll be watching this thread. Our situation is a little different than yours, but I also had the same basic concept of eat and mingle. But then I went to a wedding this weekend and it was lovely but kind of boring and I realize mingle only really works when everyone knows each other. Or else some people mingle while others sit around. It sounds like your guest list is small enough that you should be able to pull it off, though.
Post # 5
I think your wedding sounds lovely. Dancing is fun, but it isn’t a requirement.
Post # 6
You are SOOOO not alone, we’re doing the EXACT SAME THING! I have these exact fears.
My mom & dad & FIL’s keep reassuring me that people will be fine, they will enjoy themselves!!
Post # 7
I think there’s something to be said for people knowing that your wedding is at your mom’s home. I’m sure nothing has led them to believe that they’re going to a dance off after a 12 course meal… so you’ll be FINE!
Everyone will enjoy the intimacy and casual feel of it, and you’ll get to spend time with people and have a drink and some munchies and it will be fantastic.
Don’t let other people influence your insecurities!!!
I wanna go, it sounds like such a good time 🙂 I’d stop by but I think I’m busy that day 😉
Post # 8
@Amaryllis: You know what a friend of mine offered to do? She volunteered to be “social secretary” – if she sees anyone kind of off by themselves, she will go up and introduce herself and get them talking, introduce them to other people, etc. She’s super outgoing and friendly (without being overbearing), so I think she wil be great at it. If you’re worried about this, you could ask a friend or two if they would do this. I never would have thought of it myself, but it seems like a great idea to me!
Post # 9
Aahh, y’all are so nice!!! Thank you! This does help me feel a million times better.
Post # 10
That’s a great idea! And you totally already have an action plan to overcome the only thing I would be afraid of, so I am sure your wedding is going to be not boring at all! 🙂
Post # 11
I think your wedding sounds lovely and people will probably remember how much they enjoyed it for being more unique and personal. I’ve been bored more often at weddings with the whole dancing/games/etc. set up than I have at smaller, more convo focused events.