- 1 week ago
I’ll try to keep this short and sweet –
I met this guy a couple of months after I moved to a new city, we’re both singer/songwriters. We cowrote together in November 2017; I didn’t really think anything of it. he’s very attractive, but didn’t think he was interested in me that way so I didn’t pursue anything at all.
Flash forward to February, he shows up at one of my shows. Texts me, talks me into coming to the bar where he works and then asks to take me out. Date went great, we’ve been seeing each other regularly for the last few weeks. He’s stayed the night at my house several times and I’ve stayed the night at his several times as well; though nothing happened between us until our third “date.”
He’s taken me to meet and spend time with his closest friends on several occasions and I’m starting to get to know them; we text at least once a day when we’re not together (OAN, is it weird that we text so little? In other relationships I’ve texted with my SO much more. It’s not a red flag or anything to me, just different, I guess.).
I’ve been single for 3 years and dated some real pieces of work. This guy is so sweet and genuinely seems to have my best interests at heart, and to truly have feelings for me… But something happened the other night that made me question our relationship for the first time:
We were at a show, sitting side by side. His phone was on the table in front of us. I saw it light up out of the corner of my eye (I never saw nor did I try to look and see why). He grabbed it and turned it face down. Then, a few minutes later he said that he was going to the bathroom and took his phone with him.
I know that he could have done this for a MILLION different reasons (maybe he was having a conversation with a friend about his feelings for me or something… A girl can dream), and maybe I’m just paranoid because I’ve dated so many jerks, but do I have anything to worry about?
He’s very affectionate towards me in public and in front of friends; after the show he asked me to come stay the night at his place, and I did.
I’m sure I’m just being overdramatic, just trying to get a good gauge on what’s happening and honestly freaking out a little bit because I think this guy could be the real deal.