Post # 1
My fiance and I aren’t doing a conventional wedding by any means and I am a pretty laid back person. My issue is he insists on wearing a tuxedo tshirt with camo shorts for our wedding or will compromise by wearing jeans with it. We’re getting married and having a reception in a friends backyard, very low budget but I am wearing a nice dress. Every guest is allowed to wear what they want so he seems to want to treat this as if its a every day barbeque. At first I thought he was kidding, then suggested he wear something nice to the ceremony and change later. That wasn’t good enough, I honestly don’t know what to do. This is not what I wanted I could care less about most the other aspects of this wedding. I just wanted us to dress up and celebrate, is this too much to ask??? HELP!
Post # 3
although there is a big part of me that says let him wear it (been there with my own hubby who wore ugly old smelly disgusting volley shoes and loud hawaiin shirt for our wedding), i understand that for the ceremony at least he can wear something a bit nicer and then change to super casual and fun
Post # 4
Even if it is a laid back celebration, I think it always looks best when the groom dresses to the level as the bride. If you were doing a white sundress then yeah, he could potentially wear the tux t-shirt. Since you are going through the trouble of dressing in (probably) the fanciest dress you’ll ever wear, he needs to wear something to complement YOU. Also I’m sure you want to have great pictures to look back on, and the t-shirt just won’t translate as well. Make sure you tell him how important it is to you and be extra sweet – I’m sure he’ll come around. And like eloping said, he can always change into the t-shirt later in the night. Best of luck!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Whatever he wears needs to be appropriate with your dress. I’ve been to two backyard weddings, and in both cases the grooms wore a tux or suit.
That being said, there’s no reason that *after* the ceremony and a few pictures, that he can’t change into his tux t-shirt. I bought one for FI 2 years ago for his birthday, and I want him to change into it later the night (with an hour or so left in the reception)- it’s so fitting for his personality.
Also- your guests might be dressed up better than the groom- for the last backyard one we went to, FI was in khakis/polo, and I was in a sundress. Even if it’s a casual wedding, most people dress up a little.
Post # 6
That would be a “no” for me. Any guy who thinks it’s appropriate to appear in camo shorts, much less a tuxedo T-shirt, is showing no respect at all to the wedding ceremony or his bride.
Post # 7
FI still threatens to wear a fig leaf everyonce in awhile. Have you asked him for specific reasons he wants to wear t-shirts and shorts? I saw your having a summer wedding so maybe hes worried about being hot uncomfortable and sweaty in front of his friend and family. I would say try to get him into comfy linen type pants or something and a button up shirt or even a nice t-shirt if your willing to compromise.
Post # 8
Thanks for the responses, the camo shorts are just him. I get that but I agree there is a level of seriousness for the wedding and he needs to respect that. I have no clue where the tuxedo shirt came from but again its just his personality which I do love, obviously. I found the right moment and nicely asked for him to wear something more formal for part of the night and he totally caved. But he will probably change later on that night. I’m so relieved, he’s such a stubborn fool sometimes. 😉
Post # 9
Since he decided to do the right thing and wear something nicer for your ceremony, maybe he can wear his tuxedo t-shirt for the reception, and you can change into one of these:
Post # 10
Oh my god had no idea those exsisted… I’m going to order one he’ll love it. Thank you!