(Closed) Insult Wrapped in a Compliment, How Lovely.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

ha yes I recall many a frustrated conversation tho with my two sister in laws and sometimes… a b!tchy coworker..

cant win sometimes!

Prob a bad analogy but I think its like a backhanded slap….because they dont have the guts to hit you with a palm slap?

Chin up! onwards and upwards!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Mrs.tobe: lol i have ranted and raved sometimes about my SILs.. i can understand just how much better you feel after 🙂

*takes her pity party ticket* 😀

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

One of my friends/bridesmaids is like this…It’s NOT COOL. Sometimes I avoid saying things to her because of it…isn’t that terrible? Half the time she’s a perfectly sweet person…other half she is NEGATIVE!! 

Just start calling her negative nancy behind her back. That’s what I do and it feels pretty good. lol

Post # 10
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118 posts
Blushing bee

You: I’m sure you’ll look fine in a strapless dress. Besides, no one will be looking at you anyway. 

Haha ok, so maybe you just want to think that one! Sorry you’re going through this, passive aggressiveness is just annoying. 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

well, just hope she will get a SIL one day just like herself that way she will understand what shes putting you thru. Ugh.. i feel for ya!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Mrs.tobe: That. Is. Awesome.

I have a SIL who makes the same sort of comments, but the worst part is that I actually think that she doesn’t realise that she is doing it.  If she were just being bitchy, I’d be able to respond a lot easier…however, I just think that she’s awkward.  She’s one of those “Oh! You painted your living room.  It looks nice.  I wouldn’t be able to paint my house this colour”.  “Really?  Why?”  “I don’t like pastels.”  “Ummmmm…’k” peeps.  (as an aside, the rooms are painted in historical, “greyed”- down colours…NOT any form of pastel)

The best part about the “wrapped” insult occurs when you don’t realise until later that you’ve actually been insulted… That’s when you end up ranting to yourself while doing dishes.  I love coming up with retorts hours after an incident. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

LOL

Exactly!  It can get petty REALLY fast.  I just wish that all my fantastic dish-washing comments actually came out of my mouth when I needed them to.  The ONLY time, thus far, that I’ve had a retort was basically parroting back to her what she had said to me (my SIL seems to have an issue with “fancy” things…if something is “fancy” it’s said with a tone that implies something smells…BAD.  For example, the menu for our wedding was “so fancy”.  The invitations were “fancy”). Finally at my DH’s cousins’ wedding, when she commented that everything was SO fancy (in my mind, it was NORMAL and my frustration with her ridiculousness had been building up for a long time) I turned to her and said “Oh…do you really think that this is fancy?…because it’s normal to me.”  Not witty at all…kind of snobby, actually.  lol 

You can feel sorry for the fact that she’s awkward…but I find that often leads me to be really condescending with my SIL.  I don’t mean to be.  

The key is: do other people notice or do you feel like you’re the only one that gets the jabs?

 

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