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I would send a thank you note and move on. You're not in it for the gift, right?
Ouch. It's definitely not just you - that's bizarre! I think it's telling that they didn't even mention the fact that they were leaving it. They just sort of dumped this random package with no note or wrapping in your house and then told you after... who does that?
Here in NYC, if we see something like that we are supposed to call 911. You should call the etiquette police.
That is strange. You'd think is they were re-gifting it, that they would have at least wrapped it.
That is very weird! Can you save it and give it away as a white elephant gift? 
(make sure they are not at the party or will see it in that person's house!)
I would agree that that's a little thoughtless - the manner in which the gift was given (or left there) would bother me more than the actual gift itself. I'd be a little put off as well.
Id send a thank you note but that is odd. Why would they not actually give it to you and leave it on your dresser with no note? Maybe they were embarassed of it? Thats just odd...I completely understand what you mean though. I always worry when I buy gifts about not spending enough or spending too much. Its nice our wedding was before all our friends so we can kinda match what they got us and not have to worry about it.
the presentation is the strangest thing! If it was presented that way, was it really even worth gifting? I mean to not hand it to you, wrap it, or acknowledge it? I would write a thank you note (though probably fairly impersonal) and move on!
Thanks all. I will definitely write a thank you note, mostly because I believe you always thank people for gifts.
And yes, it's the presentation that really bothers me, not the gift itself. I received modest handmade (but thoughtful!) gifts that were wonderful. It's the slapdash, thoughtless way they gave it to us that most mystifies me...
Ugh, how thoughtless. They could have at least wrapped it up for you and pretended to care. That's really strange, but writing a thank-you is definitely the classy way to go, so good for you!
I say save it & give it to one of them as a birthday gift... like what they did w/ the breadmaker in "Old School"...
Totally kidding!
That's really bizarre, but my thought is that they were probably just so caught up w/ all their wedding & after wedding stuff that they didn't have time to get you something? Maybe just give them a pass this time since you guys are in the same shoes & know how hectic things get... but if something else weird comes up - follow my first suggestions (kidding again! hehe)
@LittleBear- I love the white elephant gift idea.. however, I'd be sure they attend the party. hehe.
such odd delivery! yes, it is in poor taste. and yes, send a thank you card and be delightful. i totally understand your frustration.
@buffy: haha!
Yes, please tell us what it is! I keep thinking of all these funny things it could be!
Haha, I'm picturing some sort of erotic sculpture on your dresser...please tell us what it was!
I got two regifts, from a mom and her daughter, it was ridiculous. I also feel that nothing would have been better or even a card with a nice note. So I just sent them a thank you note that said thanks for the gifts. That was that, I would be annoyed at your friends too. And yes tell us what it is!!
Definitely write a thank you note. It is the right thing to do even if what they did was weird. Then laugh. Because honestly that is so bizarre I am not really sure what else to do but giggle at the absurdity.
That is annoying! Yes, I agree send a "thank you" note and move on.
Maybe the next time you have to buy them a gift - do the same for them... or maybe thats just spiteful. :)
Wow. That's hella rude.
I'm sorry that they would even think to do such a thing.
However, I do personally think that it's best in this instance to just take the high road, send a thank-you note, and move on. =/ Sucks, I know. But if you hammer them on this, you may risk the friendship.
I'm dying to know what it is!!!
I would also be a little peeved about the presentation. Who just leaves a random gift on your dresser with no note or anything? And what were they doing in your bedroom anyway?? Very odd.
I understand some regifts. One of my good friends' husband was killed in Iraq, and she gave us the platter to their China for our wedding with a really thoughtful note to keep passing it along amongst our friends. It was one of the best gifts I received...and it was technically a regift. But that's totally different than what it sounds like these friends did.
I would just write it off, send a thank you note and move on!
Save it, and give it to someone you don't like.
But, at least wrap it up and put a card with it!
how do you know its a regift? maybe they didnt have time to wrap it
OK, this is kind of disappointing, but it was a box of looseleaf tea. That's it. Nothing too hideous. But still, we've never expressed an interest in tea...
I already sent the thank you note, hive! I agree it's the classy thing to do. Speaking of not classy though, take note that the people who gave us this weirdo gift NEVER sent thank you notes after their wedding!
Hm. Are you sure they received your gift? Maybe they thought you didn't send one and that's why they are acting so strangely now?
Haha, well, not as funny as my erotic sculpture theory, but almost even stranger! A box of tea is not even any kind of appropriate or standard wedding gift. Uggh, I would just chalk it up to the fact that these two are obvs. nuts! Maybe if they ever have a dinner party you can bring it over as a hostess gift.
That is definitely weird and I can see why you'd be pissed... I would too. But, I would just write a Thank You gift and move on :-/
thats... random. Yeah, send a thank you and then add it to your own "regifting" section of the closet, lol!
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Hi Hive! OK, this is more of a vent, and I know that some of you will disagree, but I have to say that I'm somewhat insulted by a "wedding gift" my husband and I just received. This other couple is in a group of people we hang out with. She and her husband both have high-paying jobs and got married about six months before us. When they got married, we got them some items off their registry, worth about $125. They didn't get us a wedding gift for about seven months after our wedding. We recently had a party, and after the party, we found this... object.... on our dresser in our bedroom. It was totally random. Not something we'd registered for, asked for, or ever expressed an interest in. No card, no wrapping. In fact, at first I just thought someone had left the object at the party. I had no idea it was a gift. Two days later, she texts me, "by the way, that object is your wedding present." I looked it up on the internet and it's worth about $30, though frankly I wouldn't buy it for $10.
Is it me or is that bizarre?
At the very least, it's an unthoughtful gift given in a careless manner. And my strong suspicion is that it's simply a regift.
It just bothers me that we took the time and money to buy them something they would want (along with a heartfelt card) and they opt to regift something cheap and random with no card and no thought whatsoever.
OK rant over. I honestly do not even care about the gift -- I don't want things or money. I just feel hurt that they were so thoughtless. It would have been better if they'd given us nothing.