(Closed) Intercultural couple.. two/three weddings greedy? Poll!

posted 5 years ago in Intercultural
  • poll: Where should we celebrate?
    Wedding in Japan only : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Have wedding in Japan and party in UK : (7 votes)
    12 %
    Party in Vietnam then wedding in Japan : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Make the most of your wedding dress and have all 3 celebrations! : (33 votes)
    57 %
    Do what makes your friends/family happy : (11 votes)
    19 %
    Other (please comment below!) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think thats a great idea to have the parties with your families in each place. I watched a SYTTD ep where one girl wanted 3 diff dresses for 3 diff ceremonies! Now that is greedy!

    But your idea is just like having a destination wedding and having the party afterwards. And if you have a lot of friends to have one in Vietnam too

    Post # 4
    2497 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @MrsYoshida:  Nope, not at all! I think weddings can be very expensive to host, so to me it looks like you’re being very inclusive. I think it’s nice that you want to include as many of tyour friends and family as possible!

    Post # 5
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Another expat here:

    I’d probably do a wedding in Japan, a party with frills in the UK so family there felt included. And I’d probably just do something like a cocktail party in Vietnam. I wouldn’t wear anything too fancy though, maybe a short white dress or something.

    Post # 6
    3372 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Ah, I’m glad someone else is in a similar situation! I’m Australian-Chinese and Fiance is Swiss. We live in Beijing but are soon moving to Singapore. We have family and friends pretty much all over the world! We have decided to do a destination wedding in Bali, and separate receptions in Switzerland and Melbourne. The Melbourne one will likely be small, because most of my close friends will be coming to Bali, but we need to do something as my grandpa won’t be able to travel overseas.

    I would definitely do a wedding in Japan, and two receptions. The one in Vietnam sounds more like a fun party for your local friends, and those who can’t go to Japan. I really think multiple events are just a natural consequence of being an expat and international/interracial couple. Enjoy it, embrace it – and have fun with the different traditions and customs of each country!

    Post # 7
    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Mrs.LemonDrop:  Another expat here.

    I agree with all of this.


    We had our wedding in Canada and a celebration where we live now. Everyone was happy and no one felt left out.

    I think three weddings is way over the top.


    Post # 8
    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    That sounds like a great plan to me! Celebrate your wedding with as many friends/family as possible! 

    In my case, both Fiance and I were born and raised in the USA. However, his parents are from different countries in South America and his entire extended family remains there. Our plan is to have a big wedding/reception in the States and instead of a honeymoon we’ll travel to Lima, Peru and Santiago, Chile (with our wedding attire!) to celebrate with family members who cannot afford or are too physically infirm to fly to North America. So we, too, will have 3 wedding celebrations. Go for it!

    Post # 9
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It’s actually pretty normal in Japan to have a second reception (that the guests pay to attend) for the people who couldn’t come to the ceremony and first reception, and that’s without being international.  So I think it’s totally fine to have multipe receptions.

    Are you having a Japanese ceremony, a Western ceremony, or a mix of both?

    Post # 10
    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d have all three celebrations, but maybe not wear the dress to all three (especially the Vietnam one if it’s before the wedding!)

    Post # 11
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Three weddings seems like a lot to me, but if you’re happy doing that- do it! :o) We had one in January in his country (where we live now), and will have one in July in my country (where we will live for the next several years, at least). I’m kind of overwhelmed by doing this twice… plan wisely :o)

    Post # 12
    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    same situation here.

    intimate Destination Wedding wedding in the US, ILs threw a reception for their side of the family, my parents are throwing a reception for my side of the family.

    Post # 13
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It doesn’t sound greedy, rather as if you have many people that you care about and that you want to include in your happiness!


    We’re getting married in Sweden, where I’m from, but will have a small, informal, reception once we’re back. For the second time around, it’s really just a party so that our friends here (that can’t make to Sweden) will feel included as well. The only real wedding elements will be a fancy wedding looking cake + the fact that I plan to wear my dress (so that the people here can see it as well – it’s a tea length dress, so it will work even for an informal affair).

    Post # 14
    5242 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We are techinically having 2 weddings. We will be having a traditional muslim ceremony here and family dinner then a wedding in Cuba with all our friends and a reception there. I dont think it is greedy its just sometimes what has to be done to incluse everyone you care about

    Post # 16
    847 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

    @MrsYoshida:  I think that you can have a party in both Vietnam and the UK to celebrate getting married, but three weddings is ridiculous.

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