Post # 1
Last night FI and I somehow got into a discussion about what would become of my engagement ring and/or wedding band if something were to happen that resulted in my untimely death. Weird, I know.
FI said he would want the rings to be buried with me but I just can’t bear the thought of my engagement ring being buried and never seen again. It is just too beautiful and valuable to have that fate. I told Fi this which led to a pretty interesting discussion. We agreed that if we have children the rings would be saved for them to use in adulthood but that is about as far as we got.
Has anyone else thought of this or talked about with your partner? Or are we just super weird?
Post # 3
Never discussed this, but I just read it aloud to my husband. His response was: ask them if they have life insurance… because he is a financial planner. We both agree that it would be saved for our future children. We will be TTC this summer hopefully.
Post # 4
Never had the discussion; however I just said to my husband, “Honey if I died, what would you do with my engagement ring & wedding band?” Lol. His response was, “Honey STOP THAT!” 😉
Post # 5
@Rubbs: haha! Yeah my FI was pretty uncomfortable talking about it and said he felt like he was tempting fate and he doesn’t even want to consider having to make decisions like that. My response was “awwwww!”
Then he started playing video games.
Post # 6
@star_dust: Your husband is sensible! Yes we do have life insurance, thank goodness!
Post # 7
Nope, we’ve discussed it! But we may qualify as a little morbid (and my mom tends to plan for her death about every other month or so, and guess what this month is? Haha, so since she told me what she wants done, my partner and I discussed what WE want). He would prefer I be buried, but I said IF we have kids that the rings can stay on until it’s time for my body to go away and then take them off. I’ve also heard too many stories from a good friend who runs a funeral parlor of former employees stealing stuff. If we haev kids, put the jewelry aside for them. Otheriwse, he may want it or give it to a family member.
Post # 8
@hlayers: You would be surprised in his area how many people they find without life insurance or protection. He has approached friends about it and they have said they don’t need or want it!
Post # 9
@hlayers: My fiance and I had this exact same conversation — same thing, he insisted that the rings would be buried with me. I told him that was totally stupid, especially since I want to be cremated. I’d want him to keep them, either for our potential future kids or just for himself. Why bury them?
Post # 10
@hlayers: This made me lol. “I love you babe–kill him! I almost got him!”
Asked SO and he said:
“I would have it made into a ring I could wear on my wedding finger.”
“Wouldn’t that bother your new wife if you remarried?”
“If she couldn’t accept that part of me, I shouldn’t be with her in the first place.”
I ‘awwed’ a little bit. He’s gonna get a big kiss when he gets home. He’s such a softie.
Post # 11
we havent had the conversation, but I would insist (and he would agree) that it would either be saves for our children if we had them by then, or it would be sold and the money given to one of the two charities we routinely donate to (or maybe a different one if we moved or something.) I think an animal rescue org and/or a community soupkitchen could use the money, and having a donation made in our family’s name would be an absolute honor for both of us.
Post # 12
@hlayers: lol! Yeah my husband always says things like I’ll be jumping in that casket with you! I’m like you’ll definitely out-live me cuz I stress too much!
Post # 13
@hlayers: We did discuss this. Since I will be cremated, he can keep my ring.
My dad had his ring on for the wake/funeral, but they took it off before they closed the casket for good.
Post # 14
@Rubbs: Yeah, my FI would respond the same way. The other day I asked him what he would want to do if one of us got Alzheimers, and he got super pissed at me for ‘being so morbid’.