Interesting: Does your SO share any personality / physical traits with your Dad?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

My SO is patient and kind, just like my father. They’re both also quite tall. The creepy part is that they both go by the same nickname, although they have different full first names. It’s… disconcerting. I remember thinking, as a teenager, that my mom’s cousin must feel strange, as her father, husband, and son were all named John. Well… now I know!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I just went home for my mother’s father’s funeral. My DH pointed out he’s a lot like my dad he only pipes up when spoken to with the occasional wit to get everyone laughing. I thought it was sweet, especially at the time with the family. My father and my DH were both covering up their sadness during the week, but both broke down during the services. It was sad, but very sweet.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

They’re both tall? But, otherwise, not at all. But, my father and I’s relationship was…strained.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

They are both laid back and easy going. That’s about it though. I won’t get into why I’m glad that they are different. My mom & FI are both obsessed with animals.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@rel318:  They both think they’re absolutely right about everything they say 🙂

They also both come off gruff to strangers but are total softies for me!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My SO shares a lot of traits with my Dad, and I was always told growing up to never settle for anyone who didn’t treat me the way Dad treated me (he’s like a superhuman, seriously). It always makes me laugh when SO does things that remind me of something Dad would do, or acts how Dad acts sometimes. 

…Now that I’m writing it out, I think it sounds a lot weirder than I intended. My dad’s just a great person.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

My partner shares many personality traits with my father. I did not intend to choose someone so similar to him, and did not realize it at first, but there you go. Thankfully, they look absolutely nothing alike. I would find that unbearably creepy. 

I suppose it’s not too surprising that this should happen, and I’ve often heard it’s a common occurence. Sometimes it is a tad unsettling though haha. 

 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Thankfully, no.

My father is a charming but phony deadbeat. My husband is quiet, steady, genuine. Mind, I was careful to avoid men like my father. If he was a better man, then I probably would not have worried about it.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Integrity and a quiet but wicked sense of humor.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My First Husband was more like my Brother than My Father… very understandable in that My Brother had died suddenly / tragically shortly before I got engaged.  My Brother was a nice guy… but complicated.  He was definitely part bad boy.

Mr TTR is definitely more like my Father… he is a stand-up guy… and treats me like a princess.

I guess ultimately your Question is asking…

Do I think that women gravitate towards a mate that is “familiar” and like their family… replacing one with another… and I would have to say YES

Actually, there have been many studies done on this sort of thing, and they all say we are looking to fill a gap in our lives with both what we are familiar with, as well as any “unfinished business” we may have in life

Based on my own, life I’d have to say this is true

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My FI and my father are the same height and wear the same shoe size, they also both have facial hair, but in different styles. FI has actually borrowed dress shoes from my father before. Personality-wise no they are not very similar. My dad and I are really close and we are very similar personality-wise and in the way we think. My FI is actually a lot like my mom in the way he thinks and somewhat in personality. My parents have been married for 25 years and still going strong so I figure FI and I should do well together as well 😛 (that’s not the only reson I think that).

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@rel318:  Yes… My FI shares all of the best qualities of my Dad. Their personalities are just the same level of hilarious/endearing sarcasm… Both man’s men, but a little childlike (act like five year olds at times). They get along wonderfully. There are even some little quirks they have that are similar… Uncommon words they say, crazy things they both come up with building, etc.

Physically, they are quite different (Thankfully! Because that would be WAY creepy to me! Ick!!!!) 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@glitter-girl:  +1. I totally get it, as I feel 100% the same way about my FI.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

They’re both two of the smartest people I’ve ever met, and they’re both amazing cooks.  They also both have a weird and mildly annoying habit of muttering to themselves under their breath when there’s no-one else in the room, however I can hear them from the next room.  I can never hear what either of them are saying, and FH says he’s just talking to himself about his plans for the day, etc.  I’ve never asked Dad what he talks to himself about.

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