Post # 1
One of my Facebook friends just got back from a short term mission trip with her husband. She wrote about how awesome the trip was. She also wrote about the amazing connection she experienced with her husband during the trip. She went on about how it brought them closer and how they are more in love because of the trip. There was nothing written about the people helped or the projects completed. I have never been on a mission trip but that kind of post seemed weird. I know many singles and couples who have gone on mission trips but they never posted anything like this.
Has anyone gone on such a trip with a SO before? Would this be a normal response?
Post # 3
@Kacey23: Would this be a normal response?
Does it matter? If that’s the response she’s having to an experience, is it neccessary that it line up with the publicized versions of other people’s similar experience?
Sharing intense experiences is, yes, often felt as a bonding moment between couples and even friends. Possibly other people you know also experience bonding and joy engaging in what they find to be meaningful work with their loved ones, but they don’t talk about it publically because they’re afraid other people will find it “weird” and question their normality. Like this.
Post # 4
@Kacey23: Usually people are quite impacted by going on a mission trip. I guess in this case one of the impacts was on her relationship with her husband.
Plus, it’s only Facebook. It’s hard to summarise every aspect of the trip in a single FB entry.
I’ve been on a mission trip (when I was single). Certainly that wouldn’t have been my main response, but I don’t think it’s too out of the ordinary.
Post # 5
Shouldn’t you be happy for her that she feels her and her husband have become closer?
Post # 6
@Kacey23: Why does “normal” matter? She had a beautiful experience and wanted to share it. If it encourages people to look into mission trips, that’s a good thing, isn’t it?
Post # 7
Haha geez people like to jump down throats..
I’ve never been on a mission, although I could definitely see myself having this reaction. I’m always so impressed and attracted to my fiance when I see him do nice things for random strangers when we’re out. I would assume it’s like a jacked up version of this.
Post # 8
@Kacey23: I have been on mission trips both single and with my FI. I think it’s a little redundant (and kind of a brag) to talk about how much you helped people on the trip – it’s a mission trip, obviously you helped people.
I think it’s great that she feels helping people brings her and her husband closer together. It doesn’t mean they went on a vacation and got closer together, the “helping people” part is implied in the fact that it was a missions trip.
Post # 8
I think that you are right to feel a little uncomfortable. But maybe she is going to describe the people she helped in detail at a later date. Why not send her a message asking lots of questiona about her trip?