Interesting situation

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
929 posts
Busy bee

I personally think having “getting to know you” crushes on people is natural. Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean you suddenly find all other men repulsive. It’s when you feel that urge to take the attraction to the next step you need to be worried about And really think about what you’re doing. 

Post # 4
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Being attracted to other men is going to happen. But intentionally spending time with someone daily, whom you seem really compatible with and can’t stop thinking about = asking for trouble. If you always ride in the same car or area of the train, I’d start using a different one.

Post # 5
1696 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Fashionbride45:  Every so often my mind takes me on whirlwind romances with complete strangers. I run off with the cute guy at Panera, I leave my FI and marry the viking-looking guy who hit it off with me while waiting for a plane, I have a hot passionate night with the dude at the bar.


Looking is fine. Don’t touch. Guys will look at women and see them naked and in compromising positions. The female brain works differently, so we’re probably not seeing everyone naked in different angles every 30 seconds…but that doesn’t mean we can’t create our own fantasies. Just remember that they are fantasies. He’s married and off limits.

A lot of bees on here are often jealous and say you can’t have friends of the opposite sex without a physical relationship. I call shenanigans. Have a friendship with this guy, that’s fine. Just don’t do anything stupid while you are in a relationship. After 8 years with your partner, he deserves honesty!


tl;dr: Being attracted to someone is fine. Acting on it is bad. Friendship is fine. Crossing a line? Also bad.

Post # 6
4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That’s what I’d call a “friend crush”, which is pretty harmless…but I’d go ahead and try to put that “happened-for-a-reason” thought out of your mind.

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