Post # 1
Me: Sara, I was looking at your registry and I’m wondering if there is something you guys want most.
(there are a lot of items on the registry and it’s a very small wedding at a country club – I know they registered for so much in order to buy the remaining items at a discount after the wedding)
Sara: So glad you finally asked! Actually, we were hoping you would do the same thing you did for your sister! 😉
(we have 5 kids in our family, so my brothers and I got together and bought a honeymoon for our sister using a Groupon deal. It was what we would have spent anyway – divided by 4 couples, it was quite reasonable at $500/couple. That is our standard for close family)
Me: Excuse me?
Sara: We really can’t afford a honeymoon after paying for the wedding, and I know MrPanda99 just got a new job. You’re supposed to help out family and we could really use it!
(ten minutes later after no response from me)
Sara: Sorry if that offended you…You could go in with another couple if you can’t afford it.
My FI has a cousin who is engaged to Sara. They are not close and see each other maybe once a year. I no longer want to attend this wedding in August.
Post # 3
@MrsPanda99: Wow, that was very brave and forward of her to ask. I do not blame you for your feelings…
Post # 4
@MrsPanda99: What rock do these people crawl out from? Jesus Christ. I probably wouldn’t attend either.
Post # 5
Holy shit that was rude! Where to people get off thinking that’s okay?
Not to mention, clearly I would never (as a cousin) expect the same gift you got for your own sibling.
Post # 7
I’d send her a Groupon gift card and let her make up the difference, since you’re “supposed to help out family”.
I’d get her a Groupon Getaway to someplace really awful. There’s always random hotel Groupons for places like the middle of nowhere Idaho (sorry to any Idaho bees).
Post # 8
Holy Moly! That was ridiculous! I am offended for you at her presuming you would do this for her! I don’t think I would want to attend either.
Post # 9
Wow. And just when you think you have heard it all. I can’t believe she just came out and asked you like that. I would probably not attend.
Post # 11
Wow.. that is rather forward. Does she think she is the same priority to you as your sister? Wow.
Talk about awkward.
And who spends so much on their wedding that they can’t afford a honeymoon?! They should have planned ahead and done a honeymoon registry instead. *SMH*
Post # 12
@OldMrsMcDonald: LOL, I actually really love the idea of getting her Groupon Getaway to somewhere awful. Perhaps a one way ticket!
Post # 13
@MrsPanda99: Wow, that’s unbelievably rude. What did your husband say??
Post # 14
@canarydiamond: That was my thinking. She chose a very expensive country club for her venue, and I am assuming that she wants guests to recoup her costs. I was going to get her a generous gift but now I want to get her nothing and stay home :-
Post # 15
@MrsWBS: I am so close to my sister. All of us are close actually. We always try to spoil each other. However, that sentiment doesn’t extend to cousins we rarely see.
Post # 16
Dear heavens. How about a Groupon to etiquette school?