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So, last night there was some exciting flutter going on at my parents house. The BF of my little sister asked my dad if they could get married. They're not officially engaged yet, but they want to have a December wedding. Well, I was married in December too, which is totally cool. I just told my little sister to not get married on the 29th (was my day) and she said, "Oh mom thought it would be cool if I got married on the 29th too, but I thought you would kill me." To which I said, "Uh, yeah I would kill you. That day is MINE. I didn't wait 28 years to finally get married just to share my anniversary with a sibling." Just a note, I said this in a joking/serious tone (sister recognizes the tone LOL) so it's not like I sound like a complete jerk.
Anyhoo...I know we only get a day and now that I'm married, the whole wedding time frame doesn't really apply to me. Now, if a close friend were to get married on my wedding day, to me that's just different...not family. But a sibling? Seriously...there are 364 other days in the year, you don't have to pick MY anniversary.
So, I'm just curious as to how you guys would react/feel if a sibling chose your anniversary as a wedding day. In the end, if the sister does, I won't make a big deal out of it...just be a little annoyed. So, it's not like this is going to be a huge drama fest or anything, I just want to see how you guys would feel!
I wouldn't care at all!
I don't celebrate my anniversary with anyone except my husband and so I really don't care what anyone else does on that day!
Um, I wouldn't love it but I'd deal. Although I think its really nice to do an older generation's anniversary (so long as you ask). My cousin asked my grandma if she would mind if she got married on her anniversary and i think that is cute. Like good luck or something because my grandparents had such a happy marriage. I would totally consider getting married on my parents' anniversary if it wasn't smack dab in the middle of the summer (I hate heat!) :)
I wouldn't like it. We've picked our date and are so excited for it, it would be really annoying to have that replayed for a sibling. Slightly bratty, maybe but that's my honest feeling.
Out of all the days in the year, my FSIL who got enaged after we did is getting married on my 1 year anniversary. We don't get along and don't speak and she has tortured me during this whole wedding process so it's certainly not something that can be discussed. Part of me is pretty pissed and then another part could care less. FI wants to plan a trip for our 1 years anniversary and then say oops we are going to be away that day.
Yeah...that's what she said (totally didn't mean to quote the office LOL). If anything, if she does pick the 29th it will be out of necessity and not because she's being a punk. She knows how I feel so I know she wouldn't purposely pick that day unless if it's the only day that worked for her....which I really don't think will be an issue beings the 29th will be on a Wednesday. LOL
So, looks like I'll be planning another wedding beings she's already dubbed me her wedding planner. LOL Looks like I won't be kicking my weddingbee habit anytime soon. Yippeee!!!! lol
*Edit* I hadn't seen some of the responses when I wrote mine...I think the only reason it does bother me is my sister can be kind of high maintence, rephrase VERY high maintenence (we are super close though) and I don't want her taking away from my 1st anniversary. I know it's a little catty of me, but considering what my husband and I have been through (military deployment, being in a LDR for our whole relationship, seeing eachother 3 times during the first 10 months of our marriage) that 1st anniversary is going to be HUGE for us. It's finally going to be when we can officially live together, not have to worry about being apart anymore..It's going to be a very sweet day for us...key word "us" as in, I really want to celebrate that day with him considering in the 2 years together, we haven't been able to be together on any anniversaries, birthdays, 1 christmas etc...So, I guess my irritations only end up on the 1st anniversary...any year after that I'm totally cool w/ sharing beings I do get along with my sister.
It would bug me, sure. But I know that my sister won't do it out of love and respect for me and FH. Besides, she'd want her own special day without any previous immediate family attachment to it! But if she did? Meh, I'd cope. Hundreds of other people in the world will get married on the same day as me and in the end another one doesn't matter. It'd only feel different because we're related.
I wouldn't be really happy about it but would ultimately realize its not a big deal. But like you said - I wouldn't really want to share my anniversary with a sibling.
I think it would be neat. After the actual wedding day no one other than the couple really pays attention to anniversaries.
I think it's a neat kind of new family tradition. My mother and father were married on Christmas day and my grandparents on New Years day. I considered getting married on a holiday to keep the tradition alive but I think it would be too stressful!
Now this really got me thinking LOL. I don't care about the date, but I'm a little annoyed that this is how I will have to spend my first anniversary. I wonder if she did it on purpose.
my mom tried to get my and my huband to get married on their 25th!!
I would not like that at all! It's one thing to maybe get married on your parents or grandparents anniversary but to have your sibling get married on your one year anniversary is just weird. I hope my little sister picks her own special day to celebrate such a major event in her life!
I wouldn't care. There's thousands of people who will have August 7th as their day. My grandparents, aunt, and cousin are actually all August 8th. My photographer's is August 7th. My Maid of Honor is getting married one week before our one year anniversary, she almost picked August 6, 2011. I can't think of a better way to celebrate our one year together than at a special person's wedding!
mmm, I would not be a happy camper . . and would probably say so. . quite loudly. It's like you said, they have 364 OTHER days to choose from!
I'm still hoping they just change it to a summer wedding. Coming from a December bride that got married in Colorado....not fun...The week before the wedding, the high was 5 degrees, so the 29 degrees on the wedding day felt warm. lol
I don't think I would care either way. Honestly I'd just be more likely to say whatever....possibly think it was weird but no biggie!
Our wedding date is the same as FH's sister and brother-in-law. I had no idea when their anniversary was, and apparently neither did my FH - we found out when we told them we'd picked a date :) They don't mind (FBIL likes that he can tell people he's taking FSIL out for dinner and dancing for their anniversary this year, lol), but if I'd known if was their anniversary I might have picked a different day (I say "might" because the date has significance to us).
Eh, I would probably be annoyed for a day then get over it. It'll be a bummer not to celebrate you anniversary on the exact day for that year, but all the other years will be all yours. As a sibling I wouldn't want to pick the same day, I'd want everything to be unique to us, even the calendar day!
This is why I refused (refused!) to even consider long weekend dates for our wedding date. Too many people I know get married over the long weekends, and though it *really* doesn't matter I don't think it is particularly cute to share your anniversary with 287356874654people you know.
Thank goodness my sister is already married and my brother is anti-establishment, so I can pick a date without feeling bratty or annoyed later. :)
I wouldn't care. I mean, on most anniversaries you'll just hang out together, right? And if you do choose to have a party, you could invite your sister and her friends and have twice the fun.
i wouldn't care one bit. I got married on my brother's birthday..he didn't care either. Actually liked it cause he had a lot of left over booze to party with after the reception.. :)
My brother is also engaged. He and his FI have not set a date for several reason and the biggest being a money factor. My FI and I got engaged 5 weeks after my bro. I called my brother and asked him how he not only felt about sharing an Anniversary, but sharing a wedding date. I figured it would save on all cost and we could split the cost between our mom, us, and our FI's family.
Bro was all for it. His FI thought it was horrible idea.
Needless to say, I have my own anniversary and Bro still doesn't have a date set.
My brother had a shotgun wedding last summer and I'm having my wedding this fall. I never wanted a summer wedding so we never had to worry about that 
.
My mom got married on February 13th (the church was booked for the 14th) and my mom's sister got married February 14th for her second wedding. Mom was pretty upset at the time, I think I could understand that.
My birthday is Feb. 14th, I can't imagine being upset at the millions of people who have married on that day.
I would not be too happy. I'm with you JSDragonfly...seriously there's 364 other days in a year and if my sister had to choose my day I wouldn't be very impressed.
*shrug* We chose our wedding date in part because we would share an anniversary with two other couples we know.
I think that you're only 6 months from your wedding so it still feels like it's yours and big and special and huge. I think 20 years from now you will not care less. I would take it as a compliment.
I would be annoyed. Seriously?!
That being said, we spent our first anniversary day together because I didn't want to share. And it was Father's Day. But it was just him and me. If your sister gets married that day, you'll barely see each other!
But if she does pick it, you know it'll be completely out of necessity and she'll probably feel bad!
I think it's different when your sibling picks the VERY same day to get married.
I dont think I would care too much except for one thing. On their wedding day it will be your anniversary which means that you cant do anything special this year for your anniversary because youll be at your sisters wedding. But honestly what can remind us to love one another more than being at a wedding!? And Im sure you and your husband could find a way to celebrate such as stay in a really nice hotel room and order room service all night. Once her wedding is over you wont even notice that it is someone else's anniversary because you and your husband would be celebrating alone!
I see where you are coming from but you wouldnt be sharing the day with her its you and your husbands day...If she does pick that day just think you will be have wedding cake on your anniversary:) ..But if it would really bother you I would just be stright with her and tell her, it sounds like yall have that kind of relationship.
Well I stole my parents' anniversary, so I guess it would serve me right if one of my siblings took the same date too. Honestly though, I wouldn't care if I shared an anniversary with any of my siblings. Our family doesn't do anything special on wedding anniversaries anyway - I think my parents always just went out on a date and left us kids at home.
My birthday and anniversary are already on the same day. I wouldn't mind sharing it with someone else's wedding.
Actually, I got married the first time the day after my parents' twenty-fifth anniversary. We did a toast at the rehearsal dinner in honor of their anniversary.
I'd be annoyed. I had my "make believe" wedding date stolen from my cousin. The bf and I have been talking about getting married july 9, 11. That would be our 5 year anniversary. Well my cousin unknowningly took that date. Guess we will be spending our 5 year anniversary at my cousin's wedding. Grrr!!!
I think I'd kind of love it actually. Free food and drink for my anniversary dinner? DH dancing with me (he never does except at weddings)? That would be kind of awesome! But then my sisters are pretty low key and low maintenance people so I know it would be a relaxing wedding and we'd just celebrate the anniversary alone some other time like the night before, or whatever. We're not really the kind of family to celebrate other people's anniversaries unless a party is arranged for a milestone, so it's not like we'd be expected to have dinner with them every year or anything like that. But every family is different, so you'll get lots of different answers!
My son and FDIL are getting married on my anniversary this month, July 24, and I couldn't be happier or more honored! My husband passed away in 2001, and of all the dates my son and FDIL could have chosen, I am thrilled that are choosing to honor our marriage and give me a reason to celebrate the day again.
I think it would depend on my relationship with the person. I'd think it was fun if MY sister wanted to share our wedding date, but I might feel a little different if it was FI's sister. I think she's a little jealous that we're getting married before she and her boyfriend who have been together way longer are even engaged, so it might be a more spiteful than loving thing...
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