Post # 1
The wedding planning is winding down to just details now and my Fiance and I must deal with the BIG issue – how to get married! He is a non-practicing 7th day Adventist (w a super religious mom and religious fam) and I am a sometimes-practicing Catholic w a family that doesn’t really care – they just seem happy that I am getting married, finally!
We are having an outdoor wedding in my hometown and are torn between a justice of the peace or some kind of non-denominational person. I am fine w/o a church&priest but we are incorporating a lasso and arras (mexican American traditions). My Fiance is Jamaican but there don’t seem to be any particular traditions.
Anyway, my question – any ideas on a wedding program? Readings, order or events, etc. for a couple that wants some customs and religious overtones, but without the actual place of worship or it being offensive to anyone.
Thanks! I would love to see sample programs too!
Post # 3
You might want to consider a Unitarian Universalist minister. They often incorporate different faith traditions into services and are willing to officiate outside of a church. There are a lot of UU ministers in the Boston area, too.
Post # 4
My husband and I had 2 of our friends (who are older and we look up to) co-officiate. His Buddhist friend and my Jewish friend. We didn’t want to choose a stranger to marry us. One of our friends got a day-license from the state of MA to actually marry us. This isn’t possible in all states but if your wedding is in Boston, it certainly is 🙂
Just thought I’d throw the thought out there.
Post # 5
you should probably have some real conversations about how you want to practice religion after you get married. the family is (of course) very important, but what’s more important is your spirituality as a couple. if you haven’t talked about it yet, you should. even if you think that it isn’t important it may be down the road and you should be open and upfront now. as long as you know what is important to you, you can make the ceremony personalized to your relationship.