Post # 1
Anyone having an interfaith wedding ceremony or has already?
I’m getting married on August 29th, and I having an interfaith ceremony. I am Jewish and my fiance is Episcopalian.
I have been to many weddings with all different religions, but never to an interfaith one. I’m curious to know how they flow. Although we have been meeting with our Cantor every few weeks to discuss the ceremony details, we won’t really know how it will be until our rehearsal when the Priest and her meet for the first time.
Post # 3
Tag, I bet you’ll start discussing and writing your ceremony before the cantor and priest meet. When you meet with each of the officiants individually, you should ask them to provide you with a couple of examples and find out how comfortable they are with you crafting the ceremony yourselves.
Are you planning on doing premarital counseling with either of them? If so, one person will play a larger role in helping you write the ceremony, but you can send it to both of them for comments and feedback. (You can ask how often or how many times they’ll look at the ceremony when you meet.)
You might want to check out this post too: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/jewishcatholic-wedding-anyone
Post # 4
My husband and I had a beautiful interfaith ceremony in February. We got more compliments than I can count on our ceremony, but a lot of planning was involved.
I am Catholic and my husband is Jewish and we are both observant, and after considering our options, we decided our best case scenario was to have a ceremony that honored both of our traditions with a Priest and a Rabbi co-officiating.
In the end, we worked with a Rabbi from out of town and the priest from the parish where attend mass regularly. The Rabbi had celebrated many interfaith weddings and had a lot of ideas and experience to offer us, from planning the ceremony to really insightful ideas about things to include in the program. If either your Cantor or Priest has been involved in several interfaith ceremonies in the past, perhaps one of them can offer some guidance.
I would recommend you look at the book "Celebrating Interfaith Marriages: Creating Your Jewish/Christian Ceremony" by Rabbi Devon A. Lerner for some ideas. She describes in great detail the different elements of a tradional Jewish, Catholic, and mainline Protestant ceremony, offers ideas for blended ceremonies, and offers many ideas for specific portions of the ceremony.
I also might suggest looking at the website http://www.interfaithfamily.com. They offer articles and advice that represent a very wide spectrum, and you may find some things useful.
Since I don’t know you or your fiance, or your level of religious observance, I would just encourage you to both think and then honestly discuss wich traditions are meaningful to you and which are not, and keep an open mind that is willing to compromise. What worked for us will not work for other interfaith couple, and what worked for our officants might not work for yours.
Post # 5
We are having an interfaith ceremenoy. I am Jewish and my Fiance is Baptist. We have found a Rabbi from Atlanta who will co-officiate but we are in the process of finding a Christian officiant. Sorry I don’t have any advice, but I might in a little bit once we start meeting with the officiants!
Post # 6
Our sole officiant will be a rabbi, but we incorporated large sections of the Church of England (British version of Episcopalian) wedding service into our wedding. If you are interested in seeing our ceremony, a copy is here.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m a lapsed Jewish now-atheist marrying an agnostic who came from a Catholic family (but has never been Catholic himself), so we’re going pretty interfaith… we want to respect both of our families’ traditions as much as possible. We are probably going to have a Reconstructionist rabbi perform the ceremony, but we are also considering a UU minister (or possibly both).