- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
I would love to hear from couples in a similar position. I’m looking to learn more about any struggles/obstacles or even successes along the path. Particularly, I would love to hear about the relationships with the in-laws and how people have raised their kids.
A little background on me – I’m Hindu and my fiance is Syrian Christian. We’ve been together for the past 7 years and are getting married next year. Neither of us consider ourselves religious, but our views on religion are very similar. We have always had a mutual respect and understanding for one another’s culture/religion and agree that our kids will be raised in both cultures/religions. To be honest, we really don’t mind what the kids choose when they’re older (or even if they’re atheist/agnostic). Our priority is that they are raised with solid values/morals and respect and participate in both sides of their heritage equally.
My family is open-minded and educated, and there have been several people in my extended family who married outside of the Indian/Hindu community without much trouble. Although my immediate family has serious concerns about how I will be treated in his family, they are willing to support the relationship if we are happy together. His family, however, has not been very easy to deal with. They are part of an orthodox Syrian Christian community that is very closed off. Although his parents are nice people, they have a HUGE issue with the fact that I’m Hindu. They refuse to participate in any Hindu related event, but still expect me to completely integrate in their community. We’ve been dealing with this kind of attitude for the past few years and it’s caused a lot of stress in my fiance’s relationship with his parents. They have not disowned him (and they won’t), but they are being difficult and resist “going with the flow”. I believe they are having trouble reconciling doing what their son wants and doing what their community expects/wants.
My fiance and I have been very strong and united through it all – which we are thankful for. But, I am concerned about how his parents will continue to treat us (and me in particular) in the future. I hope that they learn to respect me and accept me for ME (religion included).
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