Post # 1
FI and I are Catholic/Wiccan and this is our first year really celebrating as a couple. His family does the whole gift exchange on Dec 25th, but they don’t really do Christmas, no tree, no decorations, etc. It’s just out of habit and for the sake of their Christian families. His parents do their Yule ceremony, but FI and his sister aren’t too involved.
My family on the other hand has 5 Christmas trees, outdoor lights, a collection of Santa’s and reindeer. We go to midnight mass on Christmas Eve and have the whole family together on Christmas day to exchange gifts and have a big meal. It’s a big deal for us.
FI will come to midnight mass because he knows it’s important to me for the family to be together for it, but other than that, he doesn’t get too involved. On Christmas, he’ll stop by to say hello, give gifts to my family and I’ll go over to his and do the same. It’s always hard for me to go from celebrating with my family to going to his house and have it be any other day…with gifts.
So, what do you do for the holidays? How much do you partake in their beliefs as well?
Post # 3
@HonoraryNerd: my family is Jewish and my fiance’s is various denominations of Christianity. I actually like it – no fighting or splitting time over holidays! We spend Jewish holidays with my family and Christian holidays with his. I won’t go to church (nor do I expect my fiancé to go to temple services) but am happy to help put up a tree and partake in the eating, drinking and gift-giving. 🙂
Post # 4
My family is agnostic with different Christian upbringings, his family is Jewish. Same as nightborn, we spend Jewish holidays with his family, and Christian holidays with mine, however there’s no church/religious aspects to my family’s celebrations. When they overlap, we usually go with which holiday is a bigger deal to one of us/our families. For example, 2 years ago his uncle planned a Chanukkah party on Christmas day when we go to my parents. Christmas is a HUGE deal to my parents, while his family doesn’t really care that much about Chanukkah, so we skipped his family party for my parents. However, we’ll usually move any Easter celebrations for Passover, since the major part of Easter for my parents is chocolate.
So far, the best crossover in holidays was Yom Kippur and Canadian Thanksgiving. We broke the fast with that meal!
Post # 5
I (agnostic) just play along with his cafeteria Catholic family and do the whole consumer Christmas thing. His mom bought us a little tree so we have it in the living room. I’ll only go to church with them if they ask.