Post # 1
I am christian and my fiance is jewish. Up until now we have pretty much done Christmas and Hanukkah seperate. Well, I have celebrated the first night with him before he went to AZ to see his family. He has never done Christmas with my family. Easter and Passover have been okay. He has his first Easter last year (with an egg hunt and basket too! lol) and I have always celebrated Passover with him. I guess really, he has just never celebrated Christmas with us… and I have never celebrated Hanukkah with his family (who again lives in AZ while we live in TX near my family). How do you guys handle holidays, esp. ones that cross, like Christmas and Hanukkah sometimes do.
Post # 3
It sounds like you guys have done a great job figuring this out in the past. Is the issue now that you are married how will you handle seeing family?
It sounds like part of the problem is that his family is far away and that makes it difficult. As a married couple what are you going to do now? What if you flew out with him for part of Hanakkah but back to TX in time for christmas with your family? Maybe alternate years?
Post # 4
I like the alternating years suggestion. I know many who have done this, not just due to different religions, but because family was spread across the country.
Post # 5
I agree that alternating works best. We do that now with our families and its worked out well.
Post # 6
My brother is Jewish and his wife is not. Our family doesn’t mind celebrating holidays on the wrong day. If they go out of town to visit her parents for Christmas and Chanukah is the same time, we might do Chanukah a little early with them. Once her mom came to visit a week after Easter, and they had their Easter dinner then.
Post # 7
For us the hardest is Thanksgiving vs Christmas. His family all gets together for Thanksgiving (to celebrate Hannukah) and it is a big deal in their family. However, I dont want to always go there for Thanksgiving because I dont like the idea of forever giving up Thanksgiving with my family! DH says this is unfair because my family has Christmas, but I say its unfair to make me give up all Thanksgivings with my family. We have decided not to do alternating or make a schedule. We are just going to go year by year and see how things are. It will depend on various factors like where we are living, how close to each family we are, how much we have seen each of our families, how much we have to travel, whether or not we can afford it, etc. This year we will be going to Thanksgiving with his family (we did it with mine last year) and to Christmas with my family. Then we might go to visit his family around New Years as well.