- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
So, our meeting was today, FI played nice and everything went well for the most part. I wasn’t excommunicated! It looks like we’ll be having an indoor church ceremony, though, as opposed to an outdoor, secular-ish ceremony with references and traditions from both. FI’s ok with it not being outdoors, but he’s kinda upset that his dad won’t be officiating anymore. We asked the priest about it and he said no. That even with Episcopalians or Protestants, religions closer to Catholicism, the archbishop didn’t allow it. So, we’ll see. Maybe we will have to do 2 separate religious ceremonies. I dunno. However, when I told the ‘rents we had a date and time at the church, Mama started crying. Ugh…I hate emotional parents.
So, today we filled out the paperwork and answered questions:
How long have you known each other? How long have you been engaged? Are you of sound mind? You aren’t being forced into this marriage? etc.
Then we filled out the dispensation form for disparity of cult to allow me to marry FI, and I had to sign and agree that to the best of my abilities any children we have will be baptized and raised in the faith. He will now send that form to the Archbishop for him to give the yay or nay on. Once he does that, FI and I will sign up for the first retreat. After that, we’ll meet with the priest again to go over what we learned. Then we’ll have a second class thing to attend that teaches more about marriage as a sacrament. FI’s actually really supportive of the couples counseling/retreat/class stuff. He thinks it should be a mandatory requirement for anyone getting married regardless of faith.
We haven’t really gotten to the step in the process where we discuss what we do and don’t want included in the ceremony. We’ll see what happens when we get there. While it’s not ideal for FI, I have no problem with having the Catholic ceremony and have the handfasting and broom jumping at the reception or during the gap in between. We’ll see, though. I’m glad we decided to get this started sooner rather than later. If someone throws a wrench in the works, at least we have enough time to find an alternative.