International and Out of Town Guests: Invitations

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If by internartional you mean people driving over the border, then 3.5 months is likely sufficient. If you mean people will be coming/going overseas, 3.5 months is probably not enough lead time for the average person to save up the cash to buy $1,000 USD tickets a piece.

Since you’ve already done everything and its cast in stone, you’ll have to let us know your experience.

For my wedding, I sent out STD about 9 months ahead as people are travelling from the west coast and overseas. I also sent some friendly emails to my long distance friends and relatives ahead of the STD so folks would know what was going on, start planning, etc. My invites will go out according to a traditional time table.

Post # 3
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2833 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Send them ASAP! International travel requires more than the standard 6 weeks. I don’t care what anybody says. I’ve attended various overseas weddings and simply would have been able to make it with any less than 5 months notice.

Post # 5
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2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I sent invites out two weeks ago for our wedding in October.  We are getting married in Florida so everyone has to travel.  I’ve read on other sites that even for destination weddings you could still send out invites at the standard 6-8 weeks if you did save the dates (which we did), but for people that will be able to come they likely need to start making travel and accomodations arrangements soon so I just sent them out.

Post # 6
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

TheMochaPeach:  You should really send them out today to your international visitors.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We contacted all of our international guests in October for our March wedding to invite them, giving them the date and location. We kept in contact with them the entire time and sent out formal invitations for the International guests in January with an RSVP of early March. The rest of the invitations went out six to eight weeks in advance, as is typical.

 

Post # 9
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2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

TheMochaPeach:  Yeah, we sen’t our invitations January 1st for our April 24th wedding, but everyone had also received STDs. It was a DW (overseas), so everyone had to save up, make travel arrangements, etc.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

TheMochaPeach:  We sent out a save the date in March.  We are sending the international invites this month (we were just where the vast majority of them live, so we left them behind to be mailed from there.)  50% of our guest list is from Europe, another 10% is spread out over the world, the rest are fairly local (either Canadian or American).  Our local invites are being sent in September (everyone has a November 30th RSVP date.)  The wedding is in February.  But we have to contend with Christmas holidays, so every vendor/planner I’ve spoken with has told us to treat our wedding like its a late December wedding (so we won’t be rushing and stressed in January.) 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

TheMochaPeach:  glad you mailed them out. It isn’t too early at all. My guests were glad to get invites and travel/accommodations info even earlier than yours and with an earlier RSVP date too. For some reason, most invite/RSVP timeline suggestions online seem to be too late for guests and hosts. Just be accommodating when some ppl need a bit more time to RSVP. 

we sent save the dates and hotel/travel info out to definite guests at 11 mos out. Sent invites out 5 mos out (w rsvps due 4 mos out) or 3 mos out ( w rsvps due 1.5 mos out) depending. If the first group needed more time, we gave it without question. We need to give final numbers and payment at one month out. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  Shkragoldfish.
Post # 14
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1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

TheMochaPeach:  so glad to be helpful. When I was figuring out my timeline, so many bees said it was way too early, but at least one said to do what worked best for our guests etc. our guests wanted info early and wanted us to set early deadlines so they could miss them (because they’re late) and still have time for us to hunt them down without messing us up and without our hotel blocks closing first or plane tix being too pricey. 

This will also avoid you having a late RSVP deadline, feeling stressed, and then posting a rant one week after your invites are out about how can ppl be so inconsiderate as to not send in rsvps 2 wks before they’re due. 

One thing to keep in mind for us early birds is that sending out a post-RSVP reminder closer to the wedding can be helpful. We emailed out a “wedding info packet” (basically nearly everything thatd be in an out-of-town welcome letter from the website) and reminder that our hotel blocks were closing. This will also help local guests not forget when the wedding is just because they got early invites. 

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