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    lecclesdc    September 18, 2011  

    I am Latina & my Fiance is African-American. We're wondering how we will be treated and perceived on our honeymoon as we live in a big city and often get extremely disapproving looks whenever we go out together. We'd like to honeymoon in the Carribean or West Coast of Mexico area. Has anyone had any positive or negative experiences? Or know if this would even be an issue? Thanks!

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    im black my FH is white, and i have found that if you are comfortable you really usually dont notice the comments or stares.

    people will always have their own opinions, but thats their problem not yours.

    we plan on going to jamaica. we have been all over the country as well, some places friendly some not so much. but nowadays its fairly common to see interracial relationships in most of the world. AND theres tons of islands in the caribbean who are  mostly mixed with exactly latino and black (look how many shades of dominicans and puerto ricans there are! they didnt get that way by chance). i think people will be more accepting that you think.

    we dont have it half as bad as gay couples however. i have heard horror stories from gay couples going to other countries to have their honeymoons.

    so consider yourself blessed! and carry yourself with pride, and people will treat you just for what you are, loving beaming newlyweds!!

     
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    Jaxx317    July 17, 2011   Brooklyn, NY/wedding in the Hudson Valley

    My fiance is white and I am African American. We travel together all the time, and either don't get or never notice that we get strange looks from anyone. We've been to many places on the east and west coasts of Mexico - no one batted an eyelash. I've lived in the UK and traveled extensively through Europe and Asia over the last decade of my life and have never experienced any discrimination or racism outside the US. Fortunately for us people of color, the rest of the world has more or less moved on from the race issue. Also, if you're American, your money counts more than your skin color (sad but true). I think the advice above is great - if you are solid with who you're with, it won't matter wherever you go. Don't limit yourselves because of the "what if's". Puerto Vallarta, Mazatlan and Los Cabos are all beautiful places and excellent Honeymoon destinations, and I'm sure have seen their fair share of mixed race couples.

    Because of timing, my fiance and I may end up in Europe for our honeymoon and I'm so excited! I haven't been in about 5 years or so, and can't wait to explore new places and old with the future hubs!

     
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    ladybug718    August 7, 2010   New York

    I wouldn't worry worry too much about this - especially if you are traveling to the carribean or mexico!  I honestly would be more worried about this in parts of our own country than in the carribean!  Enjoy and have a great time!!

     
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    brittanymichelle    June 5, 2010   Cheyenne, Wy

    we aren't interracial,  but i would go whereever you wanna go, you have the same rights as anyone else. so screw what anyone else thinks cause you'll be so wrapped up in each other that i don't think you would even notice.. let them stare cause they are probably just jealous anyways

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    We're interracial too and I've never noticed us getting any looks at all. Well, except in rural Asia, but I get stared at a lot here no matter what....

     
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    pooks75    May 2011  

    leclesdc: hey there. I'm black and my boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance is white. I'm a suburbs girl; he's a farm boy...as opposite as can be! ha! Anyhow, one thing we both have in common is our love for travel and we've done alot in our 3 years together. Every winter, we go away somewhere warm to escape the pennsylvania winters. We've so far gone to the Cayman Islands, Playa del Carmen, and most recently, Antigua; and in none of those places did we feel uncomfortable or stared at. They all had somewhat diverse cultures, so it wasn't a problem for us. I'm sure you'll have no problems at all! Good luck, congrats, and let us know where you finally pick for your honeymoon!

     
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    Angela83    June 2011  

    My aunt and uncle are interracial and have traveled extensively.  The only place they felt uncomfortable was an area of Spain... my aunt said something about the Moors or some type of historical conflict in that area?  Anyway, that was 15 years ago, I think you will be fine in the Caribbean. 

    I can't believe you get disapproving looks in a big city, that is terrible!  You should totally move to the east coast- a good percentage of the couples I know are interracial and/or interfaith.

     
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    balletflat    May 23, 2009  

    My husband is African American and I'm white. I actually forget it most of the time, and we never get looks wherever we go (at least that I've noticed). Don't let it bother you...go have fun!

     
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    Jenn23    April 17, 2010   Philly suburbs

    I'm white, my hubby is Indian...we went to St. Thomas for our honeymoon. People were very friendly! We get stared at out in public only on rare occasions (that I notice anyway)...that's a shame that you notice so many stares in a big city. When we go into the city (Philly) we don't notice any staring at all!

    Now, when I went to India...well, let's just say there wasn't ANY people who didn't stare! LOL But staring is not considered "rude" as it is here. It's a cultural norm...plus, where we were there weren't ANY other races besides Indian. So I was constantly stared at...but here in the U.S...no biggie! Can't wait to hear where you decide to go for your honeymoon!

     
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    mrsdoctor    October 9, 2010   Johnstown PA

    I'm white and my FH is black... in december, we went on a cruise to the carribean (stopped in Cozumel and Grand Cayman) and no one gave us any problems nor did we feel uncomfortable. (bonus: none of the americans on board gave us problems either) I would say forget what anyone else thinks or feels and go where you want. We are going to the Dominican Republic for our honeymoon. Quite honestly, if you're going somewhere touristy, they're going to want your money no matter what you look like, lol! :)

     
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    almostarolax    July 10, 2011   Michigan

    I am white, my husband is black. We have had many looks and comments toward us... especially if we are holding hands. Its like really this is 2010 people. Ive heard things from blacks saying o why you gotta steal all our black men. and white FRIENDS saying they wish i would just be with a white man... I was SHOCKED! but we just ignore these people. its not worth getting into a fight or argument.

     

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