Interracial Wedding Help

posted 1 year ago in African-American
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Bumble bee

@kendorah:  meh i’m black my SO is white. I want to jump the broom. If people get offended by history it is a them problem, not a you problem. If, however, it bothers you to have this in the ceremony you need to discuss it with your SO sooner than later.

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Newbee

@kendorah:  I see what your saying … Change the word slaves and I think it becomes less offensive. If its important to hubby to be then its worth tweaking a little.

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Busy Beekeeper

I think it’s fine without that one sentence. Everyone still gets the idea. Does your FI though? 

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Buzzing bee

My sisters husband is black and they did the jumpiof of the broom, they just said something about starting a new life together and then jumped! Our side of the family had never seen anything like this so we were amused but I definitely think some people would have been shocked not amused if there was slavery talk. I say keep it short and sweet, less chance of offending someone

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Bumble bee

@kendorah:  idk, why is slaves offensive? perhaps you and him need to have a race talk. I had mine with my so at month two so he doesnt find reality offensive anymore. perhaps you need some of the black perspective.

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Busy bee

One of the reasons Jews break the glass is to remind them even at one joyous points in their lives, they must also mourn the distruction of the temple…I feel like it’s kind of similar.

I personally don’t see a problem and am not offended. However, if it’s really an issue, I would talk to your FI now… but if he wants to leave it in, I think just leave it.

 

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Sugar bee

I doubt they be offended by it. If they don’t like you, they probably be offended my your smile, you breathing, you wearing a dress, basically they just make up reasons not to like you.

What your Fi posted if factually accurate and I can’t see a reason why it needs to be omitted, although I can get why it feels weird to do it as an interracial couple. Maybe a fair compromise would be cutting that part out if you really makes you uncomfortable.

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Bumble bee

@kendorah:  I’ll have to agree with PP: have the celebrant say, “Now Mr. Kendorah and Mrs. Kendorah celebrate their passing into married life (or whatever) by jumping the broom.” Jump the broom. Celebrate!

As for his family not liking you based on your skin color, I know where you’re coming from. My mom is Asian and my dad is black. Both sides did not like the union. However, if you two really, really love each other…it’s just going to have to be something they get over. Sorry. Once mom and dad had us, they simmered considerably.

Let him have his one thing. Just tweak what is said before you jump the broom with him. Maybe you could have something in your program about the traditions in the ceremony. Have a little explanation about jumping the broom in there?

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Bumble bee

If his family already doesn’t like you because you are white, who cares if they don’t like the wording?  It’s not going to change their opinions of you no matter what wording you use. Do whatever makes both of you happy!  It’s your day not theirs.

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Bumble bee

@kendorah:  Oh, you’re welcome! I hope that she just gets over it once you’re married. I mean, you’re his lady now and will definitely be so once married. It’s not the 50s, she’s going to have to deal. :)

You shouldn’t have to avoid family functions because of one prejudice lady. :/

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Bumble bee

@TwoCityBride:  i think she is more uncomfortable with it than her guest. so she should cut it but also learn to come to terms with race issues before bringing children into the world.

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